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Your relationship with you and your body is between you and your body.

In what ways have you tried to make the others the same as you? What parts of their identity did you erase by doing this?

When someone says "all bodies are different" or "all bodies are beautiful," it often carries an underlying assumption that there is a standard baseline body—and then there are the "other" bodies that we are generously choosing to include or tolerate.

Both weight trolling and control trolling are interpersonal and cultural mechanisms designed to police bodies, enforce conformity, and maintain authority. While they often manifest as offhand comments, internet harassment, or unsolicited "advice," their underlying engine is the exact same: the weaponization of shame to restrict someone else’s sovereignty.

When we replace the illusion of "choice" and moral judgment with genuine acceptance, reality stops being a battlefield where bodies and identities must constantly justify their existence. Genuine acceptance isn't passive resignation or a polite tolerance that tolerates someone despite who they are.

Framing unequal outcomes, exclusion, or body discrimination as the result of "personal choice" is one of the most effective ways society rationalizes bigotry without having to admit to it. Ignores genetics, social determinants of health, poverty, systemic accessibility, and historical oppression. Ignores how sexual, romantic, and aesthetic "preferences" are heavily conditioned by white supremacy, and eurocentrism.