Status Updates From Kötü Feminist

"The books are, essentially, a detailed primer for how to successfully engage in a controlling, abusive relationship. The trilogy represents the darkest kind of fairy tale, one where controlling, obsessive, and borderline abusive tendencies are made to seem intensely desirable by offering the reader big heaping spoonfuls of sweet, sweet sex sugar to make the medicine go down."

(The problem with prince charming)

"Is it really newsworthy that a number of women have finally found something that turns them on, or is the response to Fifty Shades a depressing commentary on the state of modern desire?"

(The trouble with prince charming)

"A culture that treats women as objects, that gleefully supports entertainment that is more often demeaning toward women than it is not, that encourages the erosion of a woman’s autonomy and personal space, is the same culture that elects state lawmakers who work tirelessly to enact restrictive abortion legislation."

(Blurred lines, indeed)

"It’s hard not to feel humorless, as a woman and a feminist, to recognize misogyny in so many forms, some great and some small, and know you’re not imagining things. It’s hard to be told to lighten up because if you lighten up any more, you’re going to float the fuck away. The problem is not that one of these things is happening; it’s that they are all happening, concurrently and constantly."

(Blurred lines, indeed)

"So much of our culture caters to giving men what they want."

(Blurred lines, indeed)

"We fail you every single time a (famous) man treats a woman badly, without legal, professional, or personal consequence. (...) We reward these men for their bad behavior. We tell you that, as a young woman, you have little value or place in this society."


(Dear young ladies who love chris brown so much they would let him beat them)

"When you look past the image, a celebrity is merely a person you know nothing about."

(Dear young ladies who love chris brown so much they would let him beat them)

"Rape humor is not “just jokes” or “stand-up.” Humor about sexual violence suggests permissiveness—not for people who would never commit such acts but for the people who have whatever weakness allows them to do terrible things unto others."

"Sometimes, saying what others are afraid or unwilling to say is just being an asshole. We are all free to be assholes, but we are not free to do so without consequence."

"When women respond negatively to misogynistic or rape humor, they are “sensitive” and branded as “feminist,” a word that has, as of late, become a catchall term for “woman who does not tolerate bullshit.”"

"Inappropriate humor is often the best kind. Everyone knows at least one joke she finds funny even though she shouldn’t. I am not always proud of the things that make me laugh, but I genuinely admire a comedian who can both make me laugh and make me uncomfortable."