Status Updates From Adult Children of Emotional...

“Hate is a normal and involuntary reaction when someone tries to control you for no reason.. someone is trying to get their needs met by you at your expense.”

Men and women who lacked emotional closeness as a child often can not believe someone would want to be close with them just because of who they are and they feel they must always put the other person first… The belief becomes: My "self" is a liability; my "service" is my currency.

Children who cannot engage their parents emotionally often try to play the roles their parents want them to..

Instead of asking, "Can I tell this person anything?" try asking:
• "Does this person have the emotional maturity to hold what I am about to tell them?"
• "Do they show an interest in my internal world that matches the interest I show in theirs?"
• "Do I feel safer or more anxious after I share with them?"