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So far, very enlightening! It's interesting to find out that individuals who are attracted to, say, inhumanly large breasts are attracted to (in general) ALL inhumanly large body parts!!! (Such as a male who finds himself turned on by pornography of inhumanly large breasts will also have a very high likelihood of being turned on by inhumanly large penises-and NOT identify as homosexual.

For every 10% increase in internet access in the US, there is a corresponding 7.3% decrease in rapes--and when porn was made legal in the Czech Republic , rapes declined by 37% in one year.

Fortunately, such maladaptive arousal patterns can often be indulged in harmlessly through fictional content. Contrary to a popular misconception, indulging in a fantasy through pornographic material makes whatever sexual impulse that fantasy indulges easier to suppress and makes a person less likely to act on that sexual impulse in real life.

Worse, studies have identified a rebound effect tied to the suppression of sexual thoughts: Suppressing a sexual thought increases the probability of subsequent preoccupation with that thought. Nevertheless, what choice do you really have when you know something that arouses you is immoral, maladaptive, and detrimental to society?

For example, 13% of males responding to our survey reported arousal at the prospect of hitting someone while only 8% of females did, 15% of males reported feeling turned on by tying someone up while only 7% of females did, and 7% of males reported feeling aroused by the thought of actually (not role-play) raping someone, contrasted with 3% our female survey respondents.

Finally, as we touched on when talking about inconvenient female arousal patterns, males are much more likely to be aroused by scenarios that involve them hurting another person.

One thing you often see in these other surveys is that most “inverse system” kinks (getting aroused by something a normal person would find to be gross or a turn off) are overrepresented in males. In general, males are way more likely to find things that would gross out the average person hot when contrasted with women.

This is scientifically dense and it's not a sexy book. I already have a ton of quotes and I'm only 25% in and don't feel like putting all of them in here.

This isn't something to speed read.

I'm going to quote the part about male fantasy that I'm currently interested in then put this on pause

Myth: Internet Porn Inspires Strange Kinks
We have yet to find a set of “historic kinks” that are not still seen in our modern population. This is really cool, as it suggests that the unusual arousal patterns we see in some portion of the current population are not a result of contemporary culture & that weird online pornography exists to fulfill an innate,enduring arousal pattern experienced by a portion of the pop

*the majority

Also why the trend has shifted away from BDSM to OTT Alphaholes (like in New Adult) where there's not necessarily BDSM kink like bondage. The common element between both subgenres is the dude is dominant. Of course this was all preceded by the bodice ripper heroes.

And even in the sweeter romances, the dude may not be an asshole, but he's still dominant, assertive in some way.

The average female is more likely to be very turned on by seeing a person act dominant in a sexual context than she is to be aroused by either male genitalia or the naked male form.

^This is why I think so many women liked 50 shades and the BDSM trend that series ushered in despite them majority not practicing BDSM themselves

Our research survey, the data of which actually skewed conservative vis a vis most peer-reviewed research on the same subject, suggests the average person finds 22 weird things arousing: 23.1 for men; 20.8 for women. The average person doesn’t just have “a kink,” but rather a menagerie of turn ons many would consider to be risqué.

If you are sitting there, smugly telling yourself that nothing weird arouses you and that you are just here to figure out what is wrong with the “deviants” of the world, we have some bad news: The surveys we ran when putting this book together suggest that you, dear reader, are in fact the strange one.

Many inaccurate assumptions regarding human arousal stem from an idea that is now deeply ingrained in the Western consciousness: The concept that, to some extent, a person’s arousal patterns reveal something about their personal identity—who they are deep inside.

This erotic horror book is one of those indie books where you only find it if you've read other smut books and are searching on Goodreads too.

After chatting with her under one of her political reviews (this was years ago now, she hasn't logged in in ages) I became self-conscious about all the smut on my profile.

...then I happen to stumble upon a review she left for one of the most intense erotic horror books I've ever read in my life and was like, 'ahah.' I think she secretly reads more smut, but doesn't shelve all of it

I'm looking forward to this b/c people in general are apparently more kinky than they let on. There's one GR friend I have, and I liked her profile for her books on historical fiction and politics. ...