Status Updates From The Quiet American

“I only wished she had not thought aloud at quite such length, when the thoughts hurt her as well as me.”

Pyle is offering her love and respect and saying he doesn’t expect her to love him but that will come with time. I feel like this is said many times by a man to a woman. Is this as common as I think it is? Is it always a man who says this to a woman? Is it ever the reverse?