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Co-survivor: the partner of survivors of sexual trauma/violence, who live with the aftermath/long lasting effects of their partners’ trauma and must help their partner cope, live with the history of abuse, and heal.

- not a lot of support for peeps in this position exists

Handling stressors: quitting a job, leaving a relationship, getting past a huge event is NOT the same as handling stress (showing your body that it’s over, you’re safe, you’ve ’escaped the Lion’)

Exercise is the sole most effective way to reduce stress in our bodies.

W/out suppressing stress (watching TV, binging, drinking, smoking, fighting) and allowing it to roll through our bodies and out (exercise, sleeping, affection, meditation, yoga, tai chi, walking, making art, writing, etc.) we can move through the stress cycle effectively & not lock it in our bodies

“The key to managing stress is not simply relaxing or calming down; it’s allowing the stress response cycle to complete. Allow it to discharge fully, let your body move all the way from ‘I am at risk’ to ‘I am safe.’”

Interesting advice. Not suppressing stress

“ Our genitalia were thus named from the shamefacedness that is in women to have them seen”
I literally said “wait what????!!!” with the author with a puzzled look on my face that made bystanders concerned. I’m off to a good start here