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This topic makes me so sad, I almost don't want to keep reading.

I found this book to be extremely helpful and enlightening. He encourages seeing the children's perspective and to find the kernel of truth. This book is geared toward well meaning parents that maybe had limited skills or resources.
Some the comments about grossly abusive parents-starving, burning,or beating children- are just. This book was not written for them. In my opinion, those perpetrators should be jailed.

the stats on how much harder life is than it was for boomers are important

getting into the specifics of pain helps you manage it better

The 10 Rules for estranged parents are good

interpersonal individualism in Dutch culture - Teens are brought into adulthood with supervision ex allowing a boyfriend to sleep over