Status Updates From Resilience by Harvard Busin...

“We are convinced that leaders can triumph over tragedy, provided they can take conscious steps to do so.”

“In every culture, the ability to transcend life’s adversity is an essential feature of becoming a great leader.”

“Leaders who cannot recover have a tendency to blame themselves and are often tempted to dwell on the past rather than look to the future.”

“Real leaders don’t cave in. Defeat energizes them to rejoin the fray with greater determination and vigor.”

“You are the most important factor in your own development. If you’re determined to learn from what ever feedback you get, no one can stop you.”

“When someone gives you advice, test it out. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you can try again, tweak your approach, or decide to end the experiment.”

“Those who explicitly seek critical feedback (that is, who are not just fishing for praise) tend to get higher performance ratings.”

“What’s one thing you see me doing (or failing to do) that holds me back?”

“When you set aside snap judgments and take time to explore where feedback is coming from and where it’s going you can enter into a rich, informative conversation about perceived best practices-whether you decide to take the advice or not.”

“Work to hear feedback as potential valuable advice from a fresh perspective.”

“When in doubt, people tend to assume the worst and to put even well-intentioned coaching into the evaluation bin. Feeling judged is likely to set off your identity triggers, and the resulting anxiety can drown out the opportunity to learn.”

“What am I doing that’s making things tough? What would improve the situation?”

“Identity triggers are all about your relationship with yourself. Whether the feedback is right or wrong, wise or witless, it can be devastating if it causes your sense of who you are to come undone.”