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There will be a watery passage to swim through on your way to balance. You won’t really know who you are/what you’re becoming. Anything could happen, Something revealing wonderful or tragic something miraculous or epiphanic that sets you at ease. Your beliefs get pulverized, your dreams evaporated. It’s the most unsettling time. When you no longer recognize yourself you have the opportunity to meet who you truly are.

I saw that I had to meet the extreme challenge that I was in with radical flexibility. Instead of armoring up, I had to create a more supple and awake response to everything that tested me. None of us are meant to be fortresses. We are created for connection—to the sweetgrass, to each other.

Compassion has compassion for your lack of compassion. You will have exquisite moments of compassion for yourself and others (and by the way, those moments heal us on deep levels). And there will be days when you are knotted up with resentment and grudges toward others and your own self and body.

The mind will think. The mind’s job is to create thoughts, and those thoughts will likely create some feelings. And then you’ll probably have some feelings about the feelings. It’s all good. What we need to keep in mind is that . . .We can choose what to think. We can choose the quality of our thoughts. We can point our thoughts in a higher direction. We can go to quality resources to inspire quality thinking.

Love your fear. Do not confront it in hopes of facing it down, rising above or crushing it. Your fear mind is not attacking you, it’s trying to get your attention so you can show it some love and calm down. Your fear only wants your attention because it wants your love. Any response to your fear that is not compassionate is really just hostility which will only jack up the fear. Compassion breaks every vicious cycle.

We can project our shortcomings onto others in an attempt to deflect responsibility for filling up ourselves. We might need everything outside of us to be clean and quiet to quell our repressed feelings of mental clutter and shame. If you don’t feel good enough, no one and nothing will ever feel good enough to you. We can miss out on so much love due to excessive preferences. It limits the diversity in our lives.