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“Just imagine all the versions of yourself who will benefit from you making these small, incremental changes...”

“There’s nothing wrong with desiring love while falling in love with yourself.”

“You should always choose the person who is as excited about you as you are about them. You are, after all, someone worth getting excited about.”

“The initial excitement naturally plateaus and fades. This shouldn’t put you off pursuing a relationship, however.”

“You’re allowed to change your mind about the people you date.”

“We’ve all heard the saying “You find love when you stop looking,” but maybe it’s more along the lines of “You find love when you act like it’s available to you.” That means that while you’re busy doing things that make you happy, you’re already creating a life that accommodates the kind of romance you’re looking for.”

“Even if you don’t exchange numbers, making a new connection with someone is a good confidence booster for when you try again next time.”

“You won’t meet them by waiting.”

“It’s not really about what you bring to the table, but who .”

“What’s the harm in developing a relationship with yourself that reflects how you intend to be treated in a relationship?”

“Are they mysterious or are they just really bad at communication?”

“The Other Five Love Languages: Physical Distance, Quality Silent Time, Words of Education, Acts That Serve Us and Edible Gifts.”

“Someone may have met your standards a year ago, but now you realize those standards no longer apply. Things change, and so do you.“

“The most compelling argument against the notion that there is a single person out there for you—your one-and-only soul mate—is that as we grow and evolve, what we need, expect, and desire from a partner changes and grows too. Someone compatible with you now may be so only for a certain period in your life.”

“We live on a planet consisting of almost eight billion people, yet we are fixated on finding one specific person to be our so-called soulmate.”

“By fixating on a specific set of physical traits, you may be significantly limiting your dating pool and missing out on opportunities to connect with the beautiful diversity of people you’re compatible with.”

Does the person you want even exist?

“No one is allowed to pressure you to stay single or pursue love.”

“Dating in this millennium starts with deconstructing your ideas about love, getting to know your positive qualities and your flaws, and accepting that off-screen relationships require compatibility and self-awareness to thrive. And recognizing that feeling loved, desirable, and worthy isn’t exclusive to romantic partnerships.”

“We are “Generation Tender”, with thousands of profiles of perspective partners always at our disposal. So why is it so hard to actually date someone?”

“Despite being part of a generation that fought for the equality of women in the workforce and in intimate relationships, our parents may have also passed on beliefs about relationships that can discourage our pursuing partnerships that reflect our true selves.”