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"It is a deft act of erasure to be told how to process a situation by a person who would never experience it."

"Is it surprising that so many of us feel disconnected and alone when we see the sacred as an external single male God in the sky rather than something that's woven into every living thing; as a place to ascend to rather than innately within; as something we can reach only when we die rather than one that's available to us every moment of every day?"

"We have substituted a strange, frenzied obsession with 'earning a living' - one of the most obscene phrases in the world - for the vital and fragrant life of the soul."

"Discouraging our ability to be confident in our separateness has been a tactic of the patriarchy to oppress women." [...] as "being singular, whole, and one into yourself."

"The deprivation that your mother feels cannot be solved by anything that you do."

"The experience that breaks this pattern is realizing that you can survive your mother's rejection of you."

"It is important for mothers to recognize and own the ways they may be unconsciously holding their daughters down because of their own unresolved issues. It's important for mothers to own the patriarchy within themselves. If mothers are unwilling to do so, daughters just stand firm and claim their own right to themselves and their own lives."

"If we avoid acknowledging the full impact of our mother's pain on our lives, we still remain, to some degree, children."

"If we avoid acknowledging the full impact of our mother's pain on our lives, we still remain, to some degree, children."

Regarding the cost of avoiding the mother wound:

"The cost to society and the world is that generations of women keep themselves small so as not to offend, are compelled to blame themselves, and bypass the chance to fulfill their potential. Thus, the genius, power, love, and gifts of countless women are lost to the world. This is a tragedy we cannot allow to continue."

"We cannot reason away or knots of doubt and uncertainty. We cannot theorize a way to get rid of them. We can only relax our mind into our own innate wisdom."

"We all have our escapes. Some of us watch TV, some of us bite our nails, some of us do drugs. However, when we are done indulging in our escape plan, even if we think we did a really good job of covering over our difficult scenario, our pain is still there. It is waiting in the present moment for us to meet it."

"Whether we are facing a pleasurable, painful, or even mundane situation, we can transform it into a sacred moment simply by being present."

"We women harbor our intimacies in locked places in our bodies. They are ours to relinquish when we choose."

"Why should we contain God any longer in our poor and narrow conceptions, which are so often no more than grandiose reflections of ourselves? Let us set [him] free."

"For some reason, I'd always thought that God came to our assistance only after we had faith that [He] would. I thought full faith was God's prerequisite."

"Moving into a shared office has taught me that some people required more encouragement, water, and sun. Some people were just like plants."

"God was there, and yet people believed they had to go on looking, because it seemed too simple to accept that life was and act of faith."

"...the two hardest tests on the spiritual road: the patience to wait for the right moment and the courage not to be disappointed with what you encounter."

"The great problem with poisoning by bitterness was that he passions - hatred, love, despair, enthusiasm, curiosity - also ceased to manifest themselves. After a while the embittered person felt no desire at all."

"She was not at peace, but at least she was decided."

"The old cobbler had believed in something he called 'the signature of all things' - namely, that God had hidden clues for humanity's betterment inside the design of every flower, leaf, fruit, and tree on earth. All the natural world was a divine code, Boehme claimed, containing proof of our Creator's love."

"Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level or self-acceptance."

"One of the greatest barriers to connection is the cultural importance we place on 'going it alone'. Somehow we've come to equate success with not needing anyone."

"I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgement; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship."

"The best way to see the workings of your unconscious is to look at the results you create."

"Think of feelings as a wake-up call, like a ringing telephone."

"If what you say gets an argument response, use this as a signal that you need to go to a deeper level of your truth. {...} The closer you get to the microscopic truth, the less likely it is to cause or perpetuate argument."

"The most fundamental thing we as humans can do to keep growing is to notice the truth and speak it."

"If you do not use your relationships as a path to your full evolution, you are cheating yourself."