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"Even when I was with you, I was a shadow. A dark, dark thing, stuck to your side, imitating your every move."

'I don’t know how to do anything without Star. She’s not just like my sister. She’s like my mum too. And my best friend. And now she’s walked out on me and I haven’t got anyone.’ 😥😥

She picked up my hand and tried to make me hit her. My arm flopped back to its side.
‘I don’t want to hurt you,’ I said, sniffing. 😥😥

I dreamt we were on a rubbish cart, Star and me, and the dustman combed Star’s hair with their dirty fingers and licked her face clean and stuck her up on the front of the cart as their lucky mascot. But they chucked me out on the rubbish heap and I was stuck in the muck screaming for Marigold but she wouldn’t come. She wouldn’t come for me no matter how many times I cried her name. 😥😥

‘It’s bad enough when the boys fight but it’s appalling when a girl starts using her fists,’ she said.
‘That’s sexist,’ I said, accurately but unwisely. 😅😂

‘It’s bad enough when the boys fight but it’s appalling when a girl starts using her fists,’ she said.
‘That’s sexist,’ I said, accurately but unwisely.

‘I’m sick of being the eldest. I’m sick of being the one who has to try hardest all the time. I’m sick sick sick of it,’ said Star. Her voice was thick. I thought she might be crying. 😥

"Some share that the abuse got so much worse after a relationship ended that they almost wanted to go back in just to make it stop."

"I swear I’m actually fun when I’m not unearthing my deepest trauma." 💀

unlikeable protags who hate themselves and make all the wrong choices will always have my heart, see: 'my lovers always flinched at the subtle desperation that crept into my tone when I asked if we could “hang again soon.” My loneliness was a disease no one wanted to catch.' aw no 😟 sweet bby eat some pizza under a blanket don't go with the bad man lol 🫠

Victim blaming on pg.172; a woman should be free to drink alcohol with her work colleagues without having to account for the likelihood that one of them will rape her on the way home. Rapists are to blame for their choice to rape, not their victims. Rape is about power and dominance on the part of the rapist, not poor decision making on the part of the victim.

The real world parallels and Adult Fear are strong,

I think I would have related to Victor a lot if I read this at the age of the target audience 🤣😅🙈

Someone smart, plz help - if the average results were:

"Weight loss: 7.1 pounds (some lost up to 46 pounds)
Waist reduction: 1.9 inches (some lost up to 13 inches)
Hip reduction: 1.7 inches (some lost up to 16 inches)"

doesn't that mean plenty of people must have actually gained weight, increased waist size, and increased hip size, over the course of following the programme? Or am I thinking median, not average?

Does anyone know why Children's & Middle Grade and Graphic Novels aren't included as categories in the Goodreads Choice Awards this year?

"Fantasy: I have an analytical mind. I enjoy thinking through problems and creating solutions that will last.
Reality: Sometimes, I turn things into problems that aren’t really problems just because I love thinking so much." I 💀😅🤣

The chapters on coming out and abortion were so uncomfortable. I didn't realise this was like, a Christian book?

The segment on religion is ... Yeesh. G-slur, antisemetic stereotype, plus zero reference to sexual abuse within the church. Glad it's over, I'm so close to DNF rn.

Being ashamed of your child's mental illness isn't what I'd consider good parenting but ok

"How did you know when to draw that line in the sand?"
"When accommodating her meant giving up too much of me."

Dylan Farrow's accusations had been public for TWENTY-FOUR YEARS at the time of publication, and you're quoting a paedophile?

Contrary to what we are taught to believe, there is no strict life schedule. Understanding an abusive relationship, particularly with a narcissist, is especially difficult because of the complex trauma involved. Healing from trauma is three steps forward, one step back, one step sideways. It is common for childhood trauma sufferers to remain in a survivalist state of denial and self-blame well into middle adulthood.

Scapegoats outsider status, combined with inner strength and independent-mindedness that put them at odds with their narcissistic parents, can motivate them to confront the family dynamics and seek greater understanding and healing as adults. Highly empathetic in response to being bullied and trained to consider others’ needs, they have the potential to transcend narcissistic patterns and forge meaningful connections

"Scapegoats often carry intense shame, self-doubt, and self-destructive tendencies that hobble them in adulthood. Their long-term trauma can cause debilitating CPTSD and lead to ongoing health and financial problems. Family members may feel varying levels of concern or bewilderment about the scapegoat’s struggles or regard such problems as further justification of his/her outcast role."

"There isn’t enough food in the world to heal the isolation of those years. There isn’t enough food to fill the space created by the deprivation and the ensuing feelings of craziness. We can’t go back."