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the fact that he’s obsessed with honesty makes me think he’s lying to me

His family sounds like a recipe for deep-seated insanity

i vaguely feel bad for judging but also not that bad

The whole section about the theme parks really just shows how being a Disney adult is a financially draining experience. Not to mention comparing Cinderella‘s castle to going on a pilgrimage is INSANE.

One of my main issues with Wolfe’s argument is that she basically just thinks that people are being too harsh on Disney adults, and believes that Disney adults are just looking for safety, comfort, and nostalgia. She isn’t acknowledging that Disney is an organization that is complicit in genocide, trying to form a monopoly, and regularly abuses IP laws. People hate Disney first, not its fans.

“In the introduction to True Story, Lindemann writes that more of her sociology students can name the entire Kardashian clan than can list the members of the US Supreme Court.”

She really dragged my ass with this one.

“On reality television, exterior womanhood is work, which is perhaps why, paradoxically, trans women have been more visible and more welcome within the genre than virtually anywhere else in popular culture. The labor they’ve put in, and the totality of the makeovers they’ve endured in order to become fully themselves, represent, in this realm, the ultimate badge of honor”

“In a 2004 essay for the London Review of Books, the writer Hilary Mantel noted that the ideal woman of the era had “breasts like an inflatable doll, no hips at all, and the tidy, hairless labia of an unviolated six-year-old.” Such a form, it’s worth noting, can’t actually be humanly attained. It has to be purchased.”

“In her 2022 book True Story: What Reality TV Says About Us, the sociologist Danielle J. Lindemann explains why reality shows, which are overwhelmingly watched by women, have catered virtually since their inception to a straight-White-male worldview. Research suggests, she writes, “that women are socialized to perceive themselves through this gaze, and to internalize female objectification.”

Connecting the modern spectacle of reality TV with Romans watching gladiators fight is sooooo good. Audience voting or participation really is modern pollice verso.

“Television is our culture’s principal mode of knowing about itself. Therefore—and this is the critical point—how television stages the world becomes the model for how the world is properly to be staged.” - Neil Postman

I know this chapter is literally about how pop culture reflects the realities of misogyny in everyday life but whew so much of reality TV is built on misogynistic foundations.

the notion that many male comedies, like those of judd apatow or seth rogen, essentially function as romcoms for men because they rely on this nerd fantasy that mirror the beauty and the beast trope of a beautiful woman redeeming an undesirable man is giving me so much to think about. more evidence that women who love the beauty/beast trope have savior kinks and lack the self esteem needed to chose themselves.

- kinda inspiring me to go through popular aughts films
- if the roles, were flipped. what might cinema that hates men look like and how might it be successful in the way that misogynistic cinema in the aughts thrived? does it simply rely on a mass audience that is overwhelming sexist?

“To say that straight men are heterosexual is only to say that they engage in sex (fucking) exclusively with (or upon or to) the other sex, i.e., women. All or almost all of that which pertains to love, most straight men reserve exclusively for other men…. Heterosexual male culture is homoerotic; it is man-loving.” - Marilyn Frye

Frustrating how she insists looks shouldn’t matter to women and then proceeds to explain every time she didn’t look perfect in public and why she didn’t look perfect

I know she means well with the modeling section but I have to roll my eyes at how backwards and conservative her thinking is, despite her constantly insisting she’s so liberal

“Personality is beauty”

*proceeds to name several incredibly skinny models*

Her childhood best friend also married a prince?! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 The privilege is staggering!

every man she has an affair with is either royalty or the head of a conglomerate

all she does is cheat omfg

“For our wedding present, his mother gave us a beautiful beach house” 😐

Ranjana Khan representation 🙂‍↕️

NAEEM KHAN REPRESENTATION YASSSS

it’s so crazy to think about the fact that Barack and Michelle were paying off student loans while he was campaigning

FARAH JASMINE GRIFFIN YOU ARE A WORDSMITH!!

i have such a crush on evf from how she writes about him

I just don’t believe some of these stories idk. One giggle sesh and months of resentment just vanish? Idk!

“There was a protest against our business but it wasnt about us!”