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“It's because I'm weak, I think. It was easier to be his friend than not to be. Too much of my life, maybe even too much of who I am entirely can be traced back to him or us. Everything wonderful, everything magical, everything painful, everything beautiful and spectacular and wretched and defining that has happened to me happened with him. And I hate him for that.”

3rd time reading this is hitting me hard😅

“The obvious solution is to not pretend to be someone you're not…Most of us know this. Some of us still avoid it. Because being yourself in a relationship is a risk. It means showing someone the real bits of who you are - the spots beneath the make-up; the self-doubt beneath the cynicism - and finding the courage to say, This is me. Take it or leave it, and to really mean it.”

“Truth, I think, is the core of love. When you can get to the truth, even if it doesn't resolve the actual issue, you are connected in some way. And when we don't tell the truth - when we perform or pretend in love, or try on different versions of ourselves to get someone's approval - we invite loneliness in.”

This book ❤️‍🩹