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“His mouth might be saying drink, but his eyes say ugly things that pick you apart, piece by piece, until there's nothing left for the scavengers.”

“For Americans, there’s a 10 percent penalty if you withdraw before the age of fifty-nine and a half, but you can get around that by building what’s called a Roth IRA conversion ladder”

extra ownership costs are approximately equal to the interest of a typical mortgage over nine years. the interest is approximately 50 percent of your mortgage payment during that time, multiply your monthly mortgage payment by 150 percent. This is how much your house will actually cost per month, once all expenses are factored in. If that Rule of 150 monthly cost is higher than your rent, then it makes sense to rent.

“Ignorance may bring a blissed-out tranquility, but that is not true bliss; on the collective level, it can result in great and wide suffering. We do ourselves and the world a profound service when we endeavor to dissolve our illusions and open ourselves to the truths they conceal.”

Acceptance is not the same as resignation/complacency

“To accept that whatever is currently happening is happening-the simple fact of the matter—does not mean conceding that it should happen.”

“"It's as if your tension is my responsibility, which I have neglected, I get careful around you, as if I'm walking on eggshells. I start feeling depressed, alienated, lonely. I'm left with a lot of resentment, and that's really stressful and frustrating."the woman has to keep him happy. He does not differentiate his anger and his frustration from her—she becomes just an object to him."

“As i observed in family practice, the children may lose out on maternal attention when the husband demands mothering energy from his partner. (It goes without saying that the father's stable attunement with his kids is also compromised when he assumes an intantile role in the partnership.)”

“She can conclude either that the people she relies on for love are incompetent, malicious, or otherwise ill-suited to the task, and she is all alone in this scary world; or that she herself is to blame for, well, everything.”

“When experiencing and expressing what we feel threatens our closest relation-ships, we suppress. More accurately, we don't: our mind does that automatically and unconsciously on our behalf.”

“People are disturbed not by things, but by the view they take of them”

“Besides being the bearers of children, they've generally been expected to assuage the psycho-emotional stresses of the men in their lives. Mothering a child may be a mandate from Nature, but mothering a grown man is both unnatural and im-possible. No wonder the father's stress gets outsourced to the mother, at a cost to children and even to the gestating infant”