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“"It's as if your tension is my responsibility, which I have neglected, I get careful around you, as if I'm walking on eggshells. I start feeling depressed, alienated, lonely. I'm left with a lot of resentment, and that's really stressful and frustrating."the woman has to keep him happy. He does not differentiate his anger and his frustration from her—she becomes just an object to him."
— Jan 24, 2026 11:23PM
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Danielle
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“Ignorance may bring a blissed-out tranquility, but that is not true bliss; on the collective level, it can result in great and wide suffering. We do ourselves and the world a profound service when we endeavor to dissolve our illusions and open ourselves to the truths they conceal.”
— Jan 27, 2026 11:53PM
Danielle
is on page 382 of 576
Acceptance is not the same as resignation/complacency
“To accept that whatever is currently happening is happening-the simple fact of the matter—does not mean conceding that it should happen.”
— Jan 26, 2026 02:06AM
“To accept that whatever is currently happening is happening-the simple fact of the matter—does not mean conceding that it should happen.”
Danielle
is on page 339 of 576
“As i observed in family practice, the children may lose out on maternal attention when the husband demands mothering energy from his partner. (It goes without saying that the father's stable attunement with his kids is also compromised when he assumes an intantile role in the partnership.)”
— Jan 24, 2026 11:22PM
Danielle
is on page 258 of 576
“She can conclude either that the people she relies on for love are incompetent, malicious, or otherwise ill-suited to the task, and she is all alone in this scary world; or that she herself is to blame for, well, everything.”
— Jan 23, 2026 05:53AM
Danielle
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“When experiencing and expressing what we feel threatens our closest relation-ships, we suppress. More accurately, we don't: our mind does that automatically and unconsciously on our behalf.”
— Jan 23, 2026 05:29AM
Danielle
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“Besides being the bearers of children, they've generally been expected to assuage the psycho-emotional stresses of the men in their lives. Mothering a child may be a mandate from Nature, but mothering a grown man is both unnatural and im-possible. No wonder the father's stress gets outsourced to the mother, at a cost to children and even to the gestating infant”
— Jan 05, 2026 05:07PM
