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It is because the human spirit knows deep down that all lives intersect. The death doesn’t just take someone, it misses someone else, and in that small distance between being taken and being missed, lives are changed.

Everything she said was like a secret voice speaking straight out of my own bones.

Stop wasting your brain space on the million tiny things that don’t matter. It’s time to use every second of your day for all the amazing things you know you’re capable of.

Allowing other adults to face and feel the natural consequences of their actions is one of the most important steps of healing.

It’s not fair to stay in a relationship where you are chronically complaining about someone else. You hold the power, always, to make something better or to learn how to accept things as they are.

The most important change in any relationship is the one that you can control: yours. You change how you show up. You stop pressuring the person that you love and become more loving.

Stop punishing them for not changing on your timeline.

People can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves.

But Muriel’s always been like a strong perfume. Better in small doses. And at a distance.

Attraction can look an awful lot like recognition i the wrong light.

We can never know what to want, because, living only one life, we can neither compare it with our previous lives nor perfect it in our lives to come. …There is no means of testing which decision is better, because there is no basis for comparison

The heaviest of burdens is therefore simultaneously an image of life’s most intense fulfillment. The heavier the burden, the closer our lives come to the earth, the more real and truthful they become.

Conversely, the absolute absence of a burden causes man to be lighter than air, to soar into the heights, and become only half real, his movements as free as they are insignificant.

For Christ’s sake, let’s help more of our frightened people get through this thing, whatever it is.

Okay, I am loving this more than I thought I would.

Plutchik's Wheel of Emotion
"Emotional Learning Disability, like dyslexia but for emotions"

"Intiment isolation"

"Captain Apathetic"

compelled...a growing tension like a bomb waiting to explode...a growing restlessness. I feel this and it worries me.

1. not setting up the target for the arrow
2. connecting with the heart
3. seeing obstacles as teachers
4. regarding all that occurs as a dream

When we struggle against our energy we reject the source of wisdom.

…we can let the circumstances of our lives harden us so that we become increasingly resentful and afraid, or we can let them soften us and make us kinder and more open to what scares us.

What is unresolved with our parents does not automatically disappear. It serves as a template that forges are later relationships… when we are resentful, it erodes our inner peace.

When we can put events into words, we can recall them as part of our history.

It also takes some courage to reach for what you want, and to admit to the person who you love the most that you love him the most. It feels frightening. It feels like surrender.

Just as dreaming of men of action sometimes lead you back to the men of reflection you unknowingly prefer, fixating on the things you can't have before you die sometimes leads you back to the fact that you already chose wisely, and everything you're craving is actually within reach.

It's the hardest thing to do, sometimes: just to stand still and be loved.

Hugh’s anger is more like the weather: something you open your door and step into. There is no dressing for it, and neither is there any method for predicting it.

The big difference between a warrior and a victim is that a victim represses, and the warrior refrains. Victims repress because they are afraid to show emotions, afraid to say what they want to say.

A sin is anything that you do which goes against yourself…. You go against yourself when you judge or blame yourself for anything….. Sin begins with rejection of yourself.