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I’m 16% in and this is bad. You’re telling me you went through all that fertility treatment and you can just walk away, not communicate with your husband, & just go after an old colleague right away? I fear this won’t get any better.

If Frankie hadn’t been so sick of crying, so emptied out, she would have cried. Thank God for girlfriends. In this crazy, chaotic, divided world that was run by men, you could count on the women.

“You deserve a party, Dolly,” he said. We were on the front porch, and I rested my head on his shoulder. “And I think you like him. I won’t tell anyone.” I laughed. “I do like him, and you know what’s crazy? He likes me too.” “Everybody likes you, Dolly.”

You need that bracelet more than you need that guy, and you don’t even need the bracelet.

She never sat us down and said she was leaving. It was more of a slow departure, like when the water’s draining slowly from the bathtub. You don’t really notice until it’s completely gone and suddenly you’re sitting there, cold.

“I think of my mother and how much she loved the careless way rich people treat valuable things. If carelessness is aspirational, my mother nailed it when she walked away from us, easily her most valuable things.”

Okay I’m this far through and hating it so far… going to finish reading cause Booktok said it was just as good as the Ravenhood series…

Loving clicking the hyperlink to a new song each chapter 😎🤭

Okay just highlight and note the last chapter of this book… so cool!

“Further, when humans evolved, infants didn’t have their own room—they didn’t even have their own bed. They were usually never more than a few feet away from an adult or sibling at any time and most often were being held.”

“Policy makers imagine that nuclear families epitomize the ‘golden age’ but in terms of the deep history of the human family, it is unusual for children to be reared only by their mothers and fathers. Children accustomed to nurturing from others view their social world as a benign place and act accordingly.”

“In order for us to keep our children safe, we need to form healthy relationships, and connect With others. We need to hug our children. Protecting children needs to be done in a way that respects their needs. By strengthening the community, not splintering it.”

“Children need healthy touch. As we’ve seen, infants can literally die without it. Unfortunately, we’ve become so afraid of unhealthy touch, that we may actually make it more likely, by failing to meet the needs of children for healthy physical affection. This can make them more vulnerable to pedophile, not less. As children will tend to seek out those who are more affectionate towards them”

“We are social mammals and could never have survived without deeply interconnected & interdependent human contact. The truth is, you can’t love yourself unless you have been loved and are loved. The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation.”

“A letter came from a small town, a brief note giving an update: rapidly hitting milestones no one was expecting him to reach. Now 8, he was expected to start kinder. A picture of him by a school bus holding a backpack, on the back in crayon, the boy wrote, “thank u Dr. Perry” I cried.”
I also cried… about a boy who was raised as a dog, lived in a cage for the first 5 years of his life. 😢😢😢

“People are not interchangeable. The price of love is the agony of loss- from infancy onward. The attachment between a baby and the first primary caregiver is not trivial. The love a baby feels for its caregivers is every bit as profound as the deepest romantic connection. Indeed, it is the template memory of this primary attachment that will allow the baby to have healthy intimate relationships as an adult.”

“All flowers bloom, even the late ones”