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People usually cheat on their partners for reasons other than sex or physical attraction. It’s usually a matter of either a lack of intimacy or a fear of intimacy.

If a relationship is built upon one member being the caretaker, and the other being the wounded, then when the wounded becomes better, the foundation of the relationship is gone.

Marriages and families are emotional systems rather than a set of individuals, and families will often stop the forward progress of other members in order to keep the status quo.

Love is wanting to go back to the feeling of being completely one with someone else.

Projective Identification: people will project personality traits onto their significant other in order to disassociate from those traits, to the point that they can only perceive those traits as existing in the partner.

Family problems are often systemic issues, and it’s important to recognize those issues in order to not perpetuate them (just don’t overcompensate).