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2 messages: 17th century Chinese saying, “a great man should die as a shattered jewel rather than live as an intact tile” & song“impossible dream”“about how it’s OK to have impossible goals because if you follow your unreachable star, no matter how hopeless or far, your heart will be peaceful when you’re dead, even though you might be scared and covered with scars like I am while you’re still alive”

Crazy how I was thinking about how I was thinking-not-thinking on my long drive home today. That meditation can be a way to process things more subconsciously than actively thinking about things. Intriguing!

Privileged Californians are immature people no matter the age. Nao said it, not me!

In reality, every reader, while he is reading, is the reader of his own self. The writer’s work is merely a kind of optical instrument, which he offers to the reader to permit him to discern what, without the book, he would perhaps never have seen in himself. The reader’s recognition in his own self of what the book says is the proof of its truth. -Marcel Proust, Le temps retrouvé
I have fallen even deeper 😍

30 pages in and I know I love this book! Pleasant read, love the talk about time, how unfiltered Nao is!

Confused, over it, can’t wait to finish

“How ironic that the cultures our modern world has marginalized are the very cultures with the wisdom to heal our modern woes.”; and how ironic that some definitions of success can also reduce social connectedness—living isolated, fancier gadgets, ingroup vs outgroup dynamics, self-absorbed, prioritizing extrinsic goals such as materials and status rather than intrinsic such as community and meaning in life.

Connectedness and community is key to building resilience to buffer against life’s challenges—people aren’t born resilient, but need a safe and loving environment to return to as they practice facing moderate, achievable challenges and talk about their distress at their own pace, with someone who can reflexively listen and absorb high emotions, and exude a call they can catch.

“We feel better with the certainty of misery than the misery of uncertainty”

Wild. Realizing I just. Don’t. Care. about this book, but feel obligated to finish 🙃

Still weird, not sure where it’s going, hanging on bc bestie recommended it

This book just keeps getting weirder. I don’t know if I like it but since it was recommended by someone I trust, I’m sticking to it

Weird. Like all the characters though

The topic of transgenerational transmission has always fascinated me! Resilience can be influenced genetically and then passed down? Amazing, and devastating when you realize why—the traumas that the OG had to survive to reproduce, giving the future generations a blueprint on how to survive that trauma, assuming they will go through the same.
Also, it takes 10-20 interactions to develop familiarity with a person.

Experiences in the 1st 2 months of life has a disproportionately important impact on long-term health/development—not surprising but wild. Now, the only tolerable dose of therapeutic interaction for intense trauma being only seconds long—mind-blowing. Heavy sigh. Good news: the history of relational health is more predictive of mental health than history of adversity!

Candy seems like fun

“ Our brain is organized to act and feel before we think“. The idea of us encoding early memories before we could even encode the actual memories themselves, is fascinating to me. And heartbreaking. Phew.

About time she got caught