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What an incestual mind fuck….. a sister, not a daughter?!?

“Love shouldn’t come with this many lies”

What a good one-liner to describe the vibes of this book so far

I don’t like the name “Ransom” 🥴

Reflections:
- It feels different reading from the POV of a chosen-one protagonist that isn’t already talented in some way
- Also, kinda nice that they encourage her to wear pants
- I like her curiosity
- I’m curious to learn more about why her eye color is different and why they dye her hair
- I’m pretty sure there’s a switcharoo with who the prince really is

So far, I find the audiobook’s voice actor’s accent distracting & the main character is such a pick-me 😅

“How can the rest of the world help us? Challenge your inner assumption that ‘everybody knows that.’ Please, understand that autistic people, very likely, do not know that. As suggested in the earlier section on direct communication, fill in the gaps by helping us understand what *to do.* This may require you to restate information more clearly or give us specific guidance.”

So excited to finally have the chance to read this book! I’ve loved following Kaelynn’s journey from “Love on the Spectrum” and her Instagram posts

“The Reprobates”

I’ve enjoyed this dinner party scene so much that I’ve gone back to read it again

I’m giddy with Emma having so many slow burning, flirty male acquaintances;
Pierce, Islington, Hawkes, Jack, Roland

The voice acting in this audiobook is stellar. I especially love the voicing for the laughably horrendous, Cousin Archibald, as he’s vexing everyone in their household with his vocal lashings about how he’ll be missing out on the much anticipated Shakespearean production.

It seems so whimsical that this home is one she’s known since childhood, yet there are still opportunities for surprise and renovation within its many rooms

Enmeshment

Intellectual boundaries

“What’s on your plate exercise”

It’s giving emotional immaturity

This first chapter was such a wild ride 👁️👄👁️

I love how each book in this series always has an entertaining hook

“When we hurt, we think of therapy, not community involvement, political action, or spiritual service. It takes a prolonged period of economic decline, a community wide tragedy in our midst, such as a war, to remind us we are all emotionally interconnected.”

“Fear Beliefs Inventory”

“Affect tolerance”

“Almost any fear or phobia that you could name, at its core, gets down to these six.
Fear of:
- Pain
- Loss
- Death
- Vulnerability
- Isolation
- Chaos”

“When we are afraid of feeling fear, when we are unconscious of its hold on us, when we avoid it, then we can’t use it or move through it. We become frozen in the fear of fear and we’re more likely to end up one of the phobics of panic sufferers. The word fear, like anger, is global and undiscriminating. It would help matters if we have more words with more nuanced distinctions.”

“See the demon of despair and greet it, ‘hello darkness my old friend.’ Be with it, but don’t indulge it. Read about it, speak about it, dream about it. Write down your dreams. Don’t fight it. Fighting it only wastes your energy….”

“While contemporary books on emotional intelligence advise you to distract yourself from your bad mood, I would say the opposite.”

On the other hand, she makes many great arguments for why it’s important to lean into the discomfort of “negative feelings” (vs. being afraid of them, pushing them down, using avoidance behaviors, etc.)

Reflections so far: I know that spirituality can arguably be a component of building resilience, but I was still surprised by how often different religious texts are referenced and interwoven into these stories. I also feel a bit cautious of interpreting some of the more Freudian-inspired interpretations of therapy and the author’s stance against psychiatric drugs.

“When we are most vulnerable we are most alive, most open to all dimensions of existence. In our venerability is our power.”

“A sense of living a life that cannot be listened to.”

Learning through first person narrative storytelling 💡‼️