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Problem behaviour is attention seeking

The courage to be normal. Being normal is “not being incapable”. I think he’s trying to link it to the root of self acceptance. Maybe if you realise you are first normal, you can set the foundation for growth.

Consciousness that “I have the ability” links to self acceptance and self reliance, consciousness that “people are my comrades” links to confidence in others and contribution to others, which leads back to self acceptance.

Workaholics value themselves based on “acts” but what about when they’re old and can’t. The level of being is a more stable value.

Self acceptance is about realising what you can change and what can’t, and having the courage to change what you can.

Unconditional confidence is in someone is the foundation of a relationship. If they wrong you that is their task. It’s your task how you respond. Whereas if you base a relationship on doubt everything around you will give a reason to doubt.

Nothing really happened, just summarised stuff

Don’t act to satisfy someone’s idea of “good” as in don’t look for praise. Help someone towards whatever they’re trying to do.

Treat relationship relationships with others as horizontal. Equal but not the same.

Praising and rebuking is a sign that you were in a vertical relationship. Giving praise is a subconscious way of saying you’re better.

Being concerned with how people see you (satisfy your desire for recognition) is self centred because you are only thinking about be “I”.

You’re not the center of the world. People are not living to satisfy your expectations nor are you living to satisfy theirs.

Think about the larger community.

Not one person on earth can be liked by everyone someone will dislike you so don’t live trying to be liked but also don’t live trying to be disliked. Freedom is not wanting to be disliked but not minding if you are.

In all relationships you hold all the cards because you’re only responsible for what you think and do not what they think.

People can change in tandem with (not due to) your own change.

“Whose problem is this?” shouldn’t be used to isolate, but to set the “distance” of the relationship.

If you never feel lost, you’re probably following a path someone set for you. Some people like that because it brings comfort. Feeling lost is a sign you’re making your own path.

Trying to satisfy everyone never ends correctly.

You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink - forcing change while ignoring the persons intentions leads to an intense reaction.

Worry about yourself. Don’t make yourself worry about others if you’ve done your part for them. Example is if someone is not happy with a decision you made and you believe it was the right one, that’s their “task” (issue).

“Whose problem is this?”

All about fortifying New York, loads of forts were put up, streets were blocked, cannons put on the Hudson. A need for independence is growing.

Recognition from others is not needed.

Education by reward and punishment leads to living a life around satisfying people’s expectations.

Explains how people will choose to dislike someone to avoid an interpersonal relationship with them, then pick and choose flaws to justify their disliking.
It’s not what one was born with, but what use one makes of that equipment.

Understanding freedom is essential when discussing courage.

Talks about how often people avoid work not because of the work but because of the relationships they form with colleagues. If you fuck up in work you fear the consequences on your identity and the response of others.

Talks about friendships that rely a on a place like school. Real love is not constricting your partner and “it is only in social contexts a person becomes an individual.

After Washington and his army arrived in mid April 1/3 of the city left fearing war. Many buildings were left on occupied or occupied by the army. The holy ground was the most troublesome area with aggression and over 500 prostitutes. A week after the army arrived two soldiers were found mutilated in the holy ground. Officers sent to bring order couldn’t distinguish soldiers from citizens without uniforms. Smallpox

The army marches very efficiently to New York being hosted by very gracious people on the way. New York is a completely different ball game to what Boston was. It’s filled with mostly loyalists and some Dutch. Washington fears that without a strong navy the British could easily take the city from the water alone. Washington view New York is the most sinful city in America. Europeans noted the amount of slaves.

q try not to view your position in a discussion as being right as it implies that the other person is wrong and that creates competition.

Inferiority should not come from comparing yourself to others but rather comparing yourself to your ideal self.
Competition makes you see everyone as enemies. (comparison is the thief of joy).
There is a difference between personal anger and indignation. Personal anger often cools soon and is used to make people submit to you whereas indignation usually lasts.
Don’t be sucked into a power struggle caused by abuse

Inferiority complexes are used to one’s advantage. Superiority complexes are the derivatives of inferiority. One can use their misfortune to seem special.

Aftermath of Dorchester. Brits flee, Washington is a hero, Americans morale at an all time high but still cautious that the embarrassment they gave the British could make them even worse. The army in Boston now mobilises for New York.

Mentions that janissaries are not only recruited from Christian lands but Turkic ones as well. When a janissary misbehaves and is sentenced to death, they do so quietly so the others don’t revolt. 6000 people in the court. Ottomans became apprehensive towards battle after Mehmed dies as he warned them if they lost a battle all the Christian’s lands they took would revolt.

Mehmed holds council about the growing Christian rumours of war. He dies and is buried in Constantinople. There was a Turkish custom that didn’t allow bickering sons of a previous sultan to access the empires treasures until one of them is emperor unchallenged. Mauzel in the Turkish court are given a taken supplies from each other according to the emperors wishes. They have investigators of violence for provinces

Mehmed attacks Bosnia killing the king, but is retaken by Hungary and Konstantin is captured by king of Hungary matyas. Mehmed returns Bosnia but doesn’t conquer the fortress in jajce.

Padme learned duja was killed pretty violently when shot down by a vulture droid. She uses the escape pod to float down the river, almost drowning herself. Gets out of the river and is captured by some locals who work in the factory. She offers to be held for ransom so she can continue her mission. She’s in a decrepit boat waiting for her messages to be sent and food to be brought.

“So afraid of interpersonal relationships that you came to dislike yourself. You’ve avoided interpersonal relationships by disliking yourself.”
Claims there is a reason for all problems, insecurities we make up, usually to avoid
something and have the excuse ready.
Books is more or less a therapy session.
“Cannot alter objective facts. But subjective interpretations can be altered as much as one likes.

They interrogate the separatist and thieves that were stealing from, get in a scrap and learn of the separatist base on mokivj (?). Thrawn reminds anakin war is not about revenge.

I’m hooked. Accepting and guiding change because it is already inevitable is a good point. Fabricating anger to achieve a goal you are or aren’t aware of is very interesting and makes me want to notice when anger is unnecessary.
Breaks down wanting to be another person well.

Schemes to overthrow a Tatar king north of the Black Sea but fails. Janissaries shine once again and Mehmed gives them high praise.
The Dracula that Mehmed faces is actually the originals son. Mehmed granted a janissary the right to pass on his property to whomever he likes after his death.

Already seems like it’s going to be great. Dialogue format works very well showing both perspectives instead of dumping a load of philosophy on you.

Highlights king valdislavs kindness and how the Turks benefited greatly from Christian bickering. Mehmed fails to capture Belgrade.
More conquest from Mehmed. They capture Trebizond. Janissaries carry out a very difficult task and have their wages increased.