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92: dmso & msm (for parasites)

75: hair growth & skincare

43-45: reactive to what materials, proper storage & safety

24: DMSO is a natural NSAID, and can be both pro and anti-oxidant

21-22: DMSO's activities

180: The Act of Loving
181: Acknowledging and Accepting Your Partner's Loving Actions &
Being Grateful and Expressing Your Gratitude

172: often embarrassed to talk about what we "want" (need)

167: preserving individuality to strengthen your relationship

164: A Look Ahead
When you become open

162: Fred & Zsuzsa story

122: concept - defensive strategies: selection, distortion, provocation

111: guilt from separating from parents
112: journal - what is your real identity?

103: our negative identity
104: journal - what is your negative identity today?

89: journal -- behaviour that indicates a fantasy bond

86: equality is damaged
(couple example)

83--'self-indulgent behaviour'
84: fantasy bond in a couple, form replaces substance

76: journal - planning for action to express (and accept) more affection

72: how you can be more generous

46: which behaviour you're going to stop, which behaviour you will engage in

42: step 3 reflect / step 4 confront

37: voice therapy - identify

26: critical voice attacks real self

64: "Let discipline guide you as a couple in your approach to food, exercise, sleep, finances, the ways you explore and share your spirituality..."
Discipline is indispensable in the lives of successful people. Why would relationships be any different?
"Is your primary relationship thriving or just surviving?
How much is discipline a part of that relationship?
Do you want a successful relationship - what makes one?"

63-- "if we truly loved another person, we would never do or encourage anything that would prevent that person from becoming the best-version-of-themselves."

62: DISCIPLINE
"The problem is we don't want discipline. We want someone to tell us we can be happy without discipline. But we can't. In fact, if you want to measure the level of happiness in your life, measure the level of discipline in your life."

63: "If you want to measure the effectiveness of your relationship, measure the discipline in it."

62: "Is freedom, then, the core of the experience we call human life? No. Love is the essence of life. Love is the one task worthy of life. We busy ourselves with so many things, while the one great task we set aside, ignore, neglect. Love is your task--to love yourself by striving to become the best-version-of-yourself, to love others by encouraging and assisting them on their quest to become their best selves."

"When are we most fully alive? When we embrace a life of discipline. The human person thrives on discipline.
Discipline is the key to freedom.. all great men and women know the value of delayed gratification." (61)

Discipline
"Discipline is a gift we give ourselves. Relationships thrive with discipline. Discipline is the price life demands for happiness. You cannot be happy for any sustained period of time without discipline. Discipline is the road that leads to the fullness of life." (60)

"'How long have you been away?' Peter asked.
The stranger smiled and said, 'Two whole days.'
Peter was stunned. He had guessed, from the intensity of their greeting, that the man had been gone weeks, if not months.
Peter said, 'I hope my marriage is that passionate after 12 years!'
The man said, 'Don't just hope, friend, decide!'" (269)