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"Your daughter's our backup baby?" the minister had asked.

"Emma is, yes." I shifted her upward in my arms. "She was just telling me how she hopes the leading Jesus sprains an ankle." He stared at me, but I thought it was funny.

We [a colony of moss] create the conditions of our thriving.

"No one will sing about me. What I make, fire will burn or time will wear away. When I'm gone, no praise or blame will attach to my story. To me, that's peace. I've lived lightly on the earth."

“A colony of moss has no interest in or even awareness of human activity. But if it did, it might say this: … Their brief lives allow them only a narrow field of vision, and they have only the barest understanding of the consequences of their actions.”

“What she feels most, though, is a kind of lost-ness, she has tossed aside the person who could love her in her strangeness and difficulty, whom she could love, who fit his personality to hers and whom she too grew to fit, and it seems impossible that she will find such a kinship again.”

“She cannot put her finger on it, the moment when she began to have a sense of walls closing in... increasingly, a kind of curtailment, the boundaries of her self growing smaller, her possible futures shutting down.”

“My aunt Matilda used to tell me there are few things that can't be solved with a shift in perspective and some shiny new trinkets.”

I’m with aunt Matilda on this!

On pause bc my KU free subscription ended 🙈

“I don't want you to look back on your life one day from a hospital bed and regret never taking full advantage of all the opportunities presented to you."

“I’d rather be interesting than beautiful any day.”

ugh. Infidelity is a big trigger for me and I didn’t realize when I started this book that there was what it was about, so I kinda hate it. Will probably DNF.

“It was too bad no one had ever figured out how to feed off the disdain of the rich; the downtrodden would never go hungry again.”

I still have no idea what it going on, but it’s an enjoyably weird experience.

I’m so confused, but I like it.

“Life will become more pleasant and comfortable if we get rid of some of the abundance.”

I struggle with task initiation.

“Let yourself use 5 percent energy to do 5 percent of the task. Maybe you keep going. Maybe you don't. That's okay.
Anything worth doing is worth doing partially.”

Chapter 3 and I’m already bawling. This book is devastating.

Noooooo… not the spiders 😫😫😫

“It's easier to tolerate the repetitive nature of care tasks if we let go of moral messages and isolate the functional reason for doing them.”

“Measuring time by the life of flowers is a really beautiful way to exist.”

“That I could consider nighttime prep as a kindness to morning me changed my entire relationship with care tasks.”

“Morality concerns itself with the goodness or badness of your character and the rightness or wrongness of decisions... How you relate to care tasks-whether you are clean or dirty, messy or tidy, organized or unorganized-has absolutely no bearing on whether you are a good enough person.”

“When I viewed getting my life together as a way for trying to atone for the sin of falling apart, I stayed stuck in a shame-fueled cycle of performance, perfectionism, and failure.”

“You don't exist to serve your space; your space exists to serve you.”

“When barriers to functioning make completing care tasks difficult, a person can experience an immense amount of shame.”

“This means that if a person was in an abusive situation either as a child or in a domestic partnership where cleaning or mess was used as punishment or was the subject of abuse then that person is going to have post-traumatic stress around housekeeping and they may avoid it because it triggers their nervous system.”

“…the gulf between what we know in our minds and what we feel in our hearts is often an insurmountable distance.”

This book is one of the top 10 most challenged books in my state (VA). Since its banned book week, I am trying to read all of the highly challenged books.

This book is HEAVY.

I love a Beauty & the Beast retelling!