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I still have no idea what it going on, but it’s an enjoyably weird experience.

I’m so confused, but I like it.

“Life will become more pleasant and comfortable if we get rid of some of the abundance.”

I struggle with task initiation.

“Let yourself use 5 percent energy to do 5 percent of the task. Maybe you keep going. Maybe you don't. That's okay.
Anything worth doing is worth doing partially.”

Chapter 3 and I’m already bawling. This book is devastating.

Noooooo… not the spiders 😫😫😫

“It's easier to tolerate the repetitive nature of care tasks if we let go of moral messages and isolate the functional reason for doing them.”

“Measuring time by the life of flowers is a really beautiful way to exist.”

“That I could consider nighttime prep as a kindness to morning me changed my entire relationship with care tasks.”

“Morality concerns itself with the goodness or badness of your character and the rightness or wrongness of decisions... How you relate to care tasks-whether you are clean or dirty, messy or tidy, organized or unorganized-has absolutely no bearing on whether you are a good enough person.”

“When I viewed getting my life together as a way for trying to atone for the sin of falling apart, I stayed stuck in a shame-fueled cycle of performance, perfectionism, and failure.”

“You don't exist to serve your space; your space exists to serve you.”

“When barriers to functioning make completing care tasks difficult, a person can experience an immense amount of shame.”

“This means that if a person was in an abusive situation either as a child or in a domestic partnership where cleaning or mess was used as punishment or was the subject of abuse then that person is going to have post-traumatic stress around housekeeping and they may avoid it because it triggers their nervous system.”

“…the gulf between what we know in our minds and what we feel in our hearts is often an insurmountable distance.”

This book is one of the top 10 most challenged books in my state (VA). Since its banned book week, I am trying to read all of the highly challenged books.

This book is HEAVY.

I love a Beauty & the Beast retelling!

I’m listening to the audio and I’m having a hard time keeping up with the characters. I think I would be enjoying it more in the print version. I am really liking the story.

OMG! Chapter one ending?! I did not see that coming. WTF!

“the contemporary MRM [men’s rights movement] has been defined, at least partly, as ‘a reaction to diminishing social status of cisgender white men, and the emergence of feminist and multicultural activism as a mainstream political force.’ “