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This author is about to me on my DNR list. Misogynistic description of the women characters, uses the r-word at least 5 times so far, long winded for no reason.. ugh. Having a tough time getting through this.

No one can make you feel bad if you feel good about yourself.
When you start to rewrite the story of not-mattering, you start to find a new center.

"You had to learn to grow up really fast to protect yourself, because there was no one protecting you."

Where there is a complaint, there is an opportunity to improve, so we should collect complaints and use them wisely.

"how is what happened stifling your life and why is this the only truth?.. is gaining freedom a lifelong process? ... once you understand you're not powerless, though you may have been as a child, you have 360 degrees of choice."

Forgiveness is mostly an internal process...but maybe it's not about sitting down and trying to get them to understand your POV, bc they're narcissistic...or they're not able to emotionally hear you... there's a difference between forgiveness and trying to work it out - and between forgiving BUT still being able to keep a distance. It's importance to ask yourself, how much is this hurting me to hold onto anger.