Paul Warren > Recent Status Updates

“They are so familiar with supplying the sensitivity that was missing in their family members that they automatically do this with everyone.
They make up for other people's lack of engagement by seeing them as nicer and more considerate than they really are.”

“In contrast, externalizers engage in behaviors that often exasperate and anger others, so when they need help, others typically want to keep their distance.
However, externalizers usually keep acting up until somebody steps in to help them. Conversely, internalizers may suffer in silence and continue to look just fine,”

“Children of rejecting parents come to see themselves as bothers and irritants, causing them to give up easily, whereas more secure children tend to keep making requests or complaining to get what they want. This can have serious ramifications later in life when, as adults, these rejected children find it hard to ask for what they need.”

Lauren is my overactive parent and mom is my passive one. Also watch for self to be passive

“In this role reversal, te child catches the contagion of the parent's distress and feels responsible in making the parent feel better. Instead the upsetting feelings just get spread around to others, so that everyone reac without understanding what is truly the matter.”

I don’t know if I’m immature if I’m self aware of having some of these tendencies, but I certainly can see myself and my family.
“"She just reports the facts and never talks about anything other than 'Here's what's hap pened lately. She doesn't connect with me in the conversation. I get so frustrated”

“However, the reactions of emotionally immature people tend to be black-and-white, with no gray areas. This rules out ambivalence, dilemmas, and other emotionally complicated experiences.”

Not trusting your instincts- parents didn’t validate feelings

Did not race to adulthood, but did erase my own emotional needs

Now that’s how you draw our unrequited love! 471 pages and they barely touched hands.

This author loves the idea of fate.

Shiroyama is way too self aware for a noble, sees through empty praise and proclaiming his role in history.

I don’t like the changing of topics every other line… respect doing something different but it triggers my adhd

Fischer lives entirely in fantasy land, now we can contextualize all his past
… and got schooled nonetheless, lol!

Kamala going full defense off Israel and erasure of Palestinian deaths, experience, genocide .

Arie Grote is best character of novel, Jacob is acting but solid second

#writing - The story is “vortexing” well

It’s only been a year since the copper negotiation with traitor Vorstenbosch

“Every man has 3 hearts “ from shogun but instead “masks behind masks behind masks”

“If guilt were copper coins, he thinks, I could buy Dejima.”

And, scene!

Did not have Orito going back to help the women in my playbook! She is more selfless than me, wise and risky to bargain with what she learned.