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“Yes. When reward is at the base of an interpersonal relationship, there’s a feeling that wells up in one that says, “I gave this much, so you should give me that much back.” This is a notion that is quite different from separation of tasks, of course. We must not seek reward, and we must not be tied to it.”

“We humans are not so fragile as to simply be at the mercy of etiological (cause and effect) traumas.

“When one can think, Whenever I am with this person, I can behave freely, one can really feel love”

“If someone were to abuse me to my face, I would think about the person’s hidden goal. Even if you are not directly abusive, when you feel genuinely angry due to another person’s words or behavior, please consider that the person is challenging you to a power struggle.”

“They use their misfortune to their advantage and try and control the other party with it. By declaring how unfortunate they are and how much they have suffered, they are trying to worry the people around them and to restrict their speech and behavior and control them.”

all the good memories will come flooding back..be patient.

“Your happiness cannot be blamed on your past or your environment. And it isn’t that you lack competence. You just lack courage. One might say you are lacking in the courage to be happy.”

The next chapter is always waiting.. just turn the page.

Adler, in denial of the trauma argument, states the following: “No experience is in itself a cause of our success or failure. We do not suffer from the shock of our experiences—the so-called trauma— but instead we make out of them whatever suits our purposes. We are not determined by our experiences, but the meaning we give them is self-determining.”

Once I realized the book was A & B conversation I was discouraged to keep reading.. but surprisingly enough it tapped into different perspectives (voices in my head) Fully engaged between the philosopher and the young man. Both living already within me.

This last chapter had an exercise called Advanced Parts Mapping in which a memory was forced up and it brought out the emotions and feelings as if it just happened. Ultimately, giving me the steps to work through it but it did make me tear up especially because I was reading out loud.

“Our deeper nature is simply what’s left when we put down the endless task of trying to be somebody.”

“When we try to deny our vulnerability we lose touch with our heart. When we fail to realize our divinity, we lose access to our wisdom and perspective, Self-leadership means standing willingly and consciously in both dimensions— feeling the intense emotions of your parts while remaining connected to your transcendent wave-state awakened mind.”