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"houses don't move, houses stay fixed, increasing in value while the unvalued humans who inhabit them come and go like seasons." Real.

I feel like this book has a lot of potential but it is also super annoying at times. It's just over the top.

So close! I'll be able to finish before the year is out

Right off the bat this book is intensely relateable, like god damn.

"only peace brings peace," a pretty idea, I wish it were true. I suppose it worked for Odo, who just fucked off to the moon. "We make justice here, or nowhere." I'm with that guy.

Oh no.... This book is boring :(

Christ the longer this book goes on the less patience I have for the various characters.

The pacing of this book is all over the place

"Explaining away the 'bad father's and redirecting us toward the 'good enough ' father is so often one of a mother's covert responsibilities."

Lol, too real.

For about the first half of this book, I found I chafed against some things Foo said. Soome misconceptions about the mind, the quick way she dismissed different techniques and therapies, things like that. But as I went along this lessened and I found as the book continued on, as a reflection of her own mentally journey, I enjoyed it more and more. Some truly wonderful insights occur near the books conclusion

"people with CPTSD can often assume problems are about them--not out of selfishness or narcissism but because they want to have enough control to be able to solve the problem."

"because of its repetitive nature, complex trauma is fundamentally relational trauma... caused by bad relationships with other people -- people who were supposed to be caring and trustworthy and instead were hurtful. That meant future relationships with anybody would be harder for people with complex trauma because they were wired to believe that other people could not be trusted."

"We are not bodies without organs, but rather an array of heterogeneous organs unable to be gathered under the same skin."

This book is pretty mins blowing. I wanna try hypnosis but I feel like I'm not a very suggestible person.

i feel like this book could be at least 50% shorter than what it is, there's just like. too much going on that i don't think is really necessary. however some of it is pretty interesting and the moth guys are pretty cool.

Here is where I really chafe against the grouping of survivors of abuse, torture, etc with (american) combat vets.
Yes people in extreme situations will do extreme things, including morally reprehensible things. But to compare people who have been abused who lash out to.... People doing war crimes, well, I can see where Herman is coming from but I'm not a fan.

p 93/469

this book is so fucking triggering to read but also very good. i noticed after reading for about 20 minutes i have a lot of pain in my neck, shoulders, and have a headache.