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When Jesus told his not-yet disciples to cast their nets on the other side of the boat, and they catch so many fish they almost sink, Jesus is providing for the families of these men who then leave their families to follow him. I’ve never heard it said that way before.

Literacy alters patterns of life that have gone undisturbed for generations

The first 68 pages are a beautiful story of kindness, love, coming of age, becoming a true family. Then tragedy strikes and we have a 90 page detour I don’t particularly want to read. I think I’ll skip ahead and go back whenever it becomes pertinent.

Most American adults know only a handful of their neighbors by name, and 28% know no one at all

12% of people in the US move homes each year, in the past 5 years, 35% of people have moved…but also…57% of people have never lived outside their home state. 37% have never left their hometown (2013)

So far this book has been psychology based. Now we are entering politics. “On the left, fairness often implies equality, but on the right it means proportionality - people should be rewarded in proportion to what they contribute, even if that guarantees unequal outcomes.”

In how to win friends and influence people, Dale Carnegie repeatedly urges readers to avoid direct confrontation. Instead he advises people to begin in a friendly way, smile, be a good listener, and never say ‘you’re wrong’. The persuaders goal should be to convey respect, warmth, and an openness to dialogue before stating one’s own case.

You can’t make a dog happy by forcibly wagging its tail. You can’t change people’s minds by utterly refuting their arguments

Interviews from Philadelphia vs a town in Brazil, middle/upper class vs poor, adult vs child

Moral (pushing) vs conventional violations (not wearing uniform)

Lower-class Brazil & Phil judged the conv as if they were moral, going so far as making up excuses that a harmless scenario in fact was harmful. (Middle/upper-class more readily distinguished between moral and conv).

Variation by class and not culture

Page 90. The first time she says her husband’s name. Presumably her husband. She doesn’t actually identify his as such.

Halfway through. 220 pages of unending war experiences

P1-30 Part One: How the Americas were far more populated and far more advanced than anyone gave them credit for.

“When was the last time you did something for the first time?”

I was interested in how this book opened but I do not like where it appears to be going…

In our work, we find that the best predictor of your current mental health is your current “relational health,” or connectedness.

When someone with a sensitized - overly reactive - dissociative response cuts themselves, they release a lot of opioid. It’s almost like taking a little bit of heroin or morphine.

A dismissive, disengaged interaction is building the foundation for an emotionally hungry, needy person who will long for belonging but won’t have the neurobiological capacity to really find what they need. Dismissive caregiving can lead to an unquenchable thirst for love.

If, in the first 2 months of life, a child experienced high adversity with minimal relational buffering but was then put into a healthier environment for the next 12 yrs, their outcomes were worse than the outcomes of children who had low adversity and healthy relational connection in the first 2 months but then spend the next 12 yrs with high adversity…but we believe poor outcomes are not inevitable

Evidently only 8 of the 10 chapters are out!

https://archiveofourown.org/works/519...

It reads like dystopian fiction. Women earn the money diving because Japanese taxed men higher for the same work. Men stay home with the kids. Boys to go school and girls don’t. Men are still head of the household.

On Jeju, we have this saying: If there is happiness at age 3, it will last until you reach 80.

Developmental Psychology before developmental psychology existed!

In a racially mixed setting, racial grouping is a developmental process in response to an environmental stressor, racism.