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Never forget your own divinity because it is only through our divinity that we have our humanity.

Mistakes are our best teacher. After all, we require a certain degree of psychological strain to grow. When everything’s going along smoothly , there’s no reason to think about ourselves and make changes.

We have to be able to endure failure. It’s the price we must pay for free will.

It is very important that you take your happiness into your own hands. Find a new hobby, or get back into an old one. Meet up with friends more often. Seek out professional development programs. Treat yourself to wellness, Do whatever it takes to become happier and more content, and don't wait around for your partner to change.

Mistakes are a disgrace. The disgrace is denying them.

Admitting that the other person is right, if they are indeed right, is a sign of both confidence and likability. Arguments, goodwill, and insight are the pillars of every agreement.

Human relationships aren't perfect. We all make mistakes, so try to be as generous as possible with your own shortcomings and those of others. Aggression and pettiness are primarily harmful to yourself—they depress your mood and strain your interpersonal relationships. Speaking of mood, humor can help us build relationships with greater levity and good-will.

Self-acceptance doesn’t mean that I think everything about me is great. It means accepting myself with my strengths and weaknesses.

Our mind does not differentiate very clearly between imagination and reality.

You are responsible for creating your own joy—as your parents are for creating theirs. You weren't put on this planet to fulfill other people's expectations. Remind yourself that every decision you make takes you one step forward on your life path. If you just stand in one place, it's true that you won't get lost, but you also won't get anywhere.

Most of the problems we have are the result of self-defense.

It is great practice to simply look out at the world and see all there is to see, and to stop watching ourselves through the eyes of others (which really means through our own). We end up seeing a lot more, and realizing in much greater detail, just how much is going on out there.

If one of your beliefs is "I'm inadequate," for instance, your adult intellect should recognize that this is nonsense, because you are adequate, even if you've made mistakes in your life. As it is, most of the mistakes we make in life are the direct result of our negative beliefs.

The main thing you have to understand is that your negative beliefs are not rooted in reality. Instead, they're based on a subjective certainty that you picked up from the mistakes that your parents made in raising you. You view yourself and those around you through the lens of these beliefs, yielding a distorted personal perception. This is your projection of reality, permeated with your upbringing.

Men are born with a genetic disposition for viewing the world around them in concrete terms, whereas women have an easier time empathising with others.

The feelings that do cause problems for ourselves and our relationships, however, are those that emerge from the shadow child, go unexamined, and are simply acted upon. And if we want to solve our problems, then we must begin at this very spot.

People who had happy childhoods sometimes need to learn that the hard way that the world put there isn’t always as good a place as back home with Mom and Dad.

The only person we have the power to influence is ourselves.

Our deep-seated, unconscious beliefs serve as a filter for our perception. Our perception of a given situation will then influence our feelings, thoughts, and actions. Conversely, our thoughts and feelings also influence our perception.

A realistic image does not exist in opposition to deep affection. I can love my parents and value them for who they are and were, but that doesn't mean they need to be perfect and infallible. It's like any instance of love in life: if I only love things that are perfect, then it isn't real love.

Our beliefs could be seen as our mental operating system, and as simplistic as they may sound, they exercise tremendous power over us, for better or worse—that is, in our shadow child or sun child. Belief systems are the lens through which we view reality.

We have an innate need for acknowledgement. This need is closely interwoven with the need for connection, because if we haven’t been acknowledged by a person, a connection can never form.

Self-awareness is not only the best way to liberate yourself from personal problems, it is also the best way to become a better person.

The feelings we experience in the first two years of life show us whether we are fundamentally welcome here or not.

Inner adult: a mental entity that encompasses our rational and reasonable mind–in other words, our thinking. Operating as our adult-self, we may assume responsibility, plan, act in anticipation of eventualities, recognise and understand connections, weigh risks and also regulate the inner child. The adult-self behaves consciously and intentionally.

The inner child is a metaphor for the unconscious part of our personality that we’re defined in our childhood.

It is to the benefit of your inner peace not to harm others.

Three sources of hurt: attachment, expectation, judgement. Three sources of healing: compassion, commitment, observation.