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Before I met you
My joy had such an early curfew
It didn't bother going out

"You have to have something on the line, for it to be called character."

"Our sufferings do not magically end; instead we are able to wisely alchemically recycle them. They become abundant waste that we use to make new growth possible. That is why biblical scripture admonishes us to 'count it all joy -- when we meet various trials.'"

"Lies may make people feel better, but they do not help them know love."

hooks talks about how its a fallacy that that love hurts and says those words contradict each other, but then later advocates for truthfulness which often brings pain.

"The wounded child inside many males is a boy who, when he first spoke his truths, was silenced by paternal sadism, by a patriarchal world that did not want him to claim his true feelings. The wounded child inside many females is a girl who was taught from early childhood on that she must become something other than herself, deny her true feelings, in order to attract and please others."

"Men theorize about love, but women are more often love's practitioners. Most men feel that they receive love and therefore know what it feels like to be loved; women often feel we are in a constant state of yearning, wanting love but not receiving it."

"When I was a child, it was clear to me that life was not worth living if we did not know love. I wish I could testify that I came to this awareness because of the love I felt in my life. But it was love's absence that let me know how much love mattered."

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“you can make more money by cutting costs than you can by earning more income… operate efficiently.”

“People subjected to prolonged, repeated trauma develop an insidious, progressive form of post-traumatic stress disorder that invades and erodes the personality. While the victim of a single acute trauma may feel after the event that she is ‘not herself,’ the victim of chronic trauma may feel herself to be changed irrevocably, or she may lose the sense that she has any self at all.”

“Guilt may be understood as an attempt to draw some useful lesson from disaster and to regain some self of power and control. To imagine that one could have done better may be more tolerable than to face the reality of utter helplessness.”

“The conflict between the will to deny horrible events and the will to proclaim them aloud is the central dialectic of psychological trauma.”

“Everything that’s happening to the world is happening to us. And whether or not we believe it, we can still feel it. That’s why it hurts so much. And we don’t even know why.” — Charles Eisenstein

“You can’t love something until you can accept it.” — Stephen Colbert

“We are born intuitive. We are so intuitive that, for most people, it’s the source of their greatest suffering. Because people hear when they’ve betrayed themselves.”

“I think so many people are so disconnected and numbed by the routine of life, they don’t even have an opportunity to stop and know what they’re feeling. And that’s why sometimes it’s three o’clock in the morning when it’s waking you up… You’re blessed to have that restlessness, really.”

“We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” — Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

“There are still huge swaths of women who never got the memo that their lives belong to them.” — Elizabeth Gilbert

“The patient must not lose sight of the fact that he is bravely committing himself, his time, and his resources to the frightening task of trying to understand himself better and to effect alterations in his life patterns. Honesty in therapy is therefore of paramount importance for the patient’s sake.”

“Sometimes, however, it is difficult to distinguish when therapy is stuck from when it is working through painful issues…”

“Psychological change requires resisting unproductive automatic reflexes and consciously and willfully choosing other alternatives— choices that are different, even opposite, from the automatic reflex— sometimes these new ways of behaving are frightening, but they hopefully are more efficient ways of coping.”

“Parents who fear the future are not likely to be engrossed by the needs of the next generation. A modern parent, emotionally detached and alienated— yet at the same time pampering and overindulgent— becomes a likely candidate to mold future borderline personalities.”

“As a personality disorder, BPD is distinguished by a cluster of longstanding, ingrained traits that are prominent in an individual’s character. These traits are relatively indexable and result in maladaptive patterns of perceiving, behaving, and relating to others.”

“GG wrote, ‘Hatred is a failure of imagination’— yet to be hated by
A true poet is to be perfectly imagined.”

“It is good to
Think, sipping wine, how Love always
Has a beginning and sometimes no end.”

“The idea for escalators came from the waves.”

“So every democracy of one’s life
Has a little tyrant time. Perpetual
Motion, within my own shadow—
Away from me. I pledge allegiance…”

The Unbearable Heaviness of Remembering… “Our bodies are the texts that carry the memories and therefore remembering is no less than reincarnation.” — Katie Cannon

“If the problem with PTSD is dissociation, the goal of treatment would be association: integrating the cut-off elements of the trauma into the ongoing narrative of life, so that the brain can recognize that ‘that was then, and this is now.’”