Michele Rubinstein’s Reviews > I Hate You—Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality > Status Update

“Sometimes, however, it is difficult to distinguish when therapy is stuck from when it is working through painful issues…”

“Psychological change requires resisting unproductive automatic reflexes and consciously and willfully choosing other alternatives— choices that are different, even opposite, from the automatic reflex— sometimes these new ways of behaving are frightening, but they hopefully are more efficient ways of coping.”

“Parents who fear the future are not likely to be engrossed by the needs of the next generation. A modern parent, emotionally detached and alienated— yet at the same time pampering and overindulgent— becomes a likely candidate to mold future borderline personalities.”

“As a personality disorder, BPD is distinguished by a cluster of longstanding, ingrained traits that are prominent in an individual’s character. These traits are relatively indexable and result in maladaptive patterns of perceiving, behaving, and relating to others.”