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What is defeat? Just the first step.

“Maybe we never really get over anything it just becomes a part of your drawing a part of your story you adapt you grow you think about it less, you form a new habits. By getting over it? We have to learn how to accept it. It happened. It’s real. We’re here the other side we’re smiling and crying and wailing from the other side, holding each other and feeling perfectly fine on an awful lot of days.”

a marriage ring 🥹🤍

“but there was one thing that helped a little light that I hold right here I would’ve died for her and that makes me feel good. At least now that I’ve got the rest of my life to live. At least I know now that I’ve got something to die for.” Oh my god just water works 😩😭🥹

Communication and therapy are really the answer to life.

Vin 😭😩🥹

“stay busy, eat when you’re hungry, f&$(@ each other work hard and rest when you die. This is the key you’ll get happy again someday just stay busy” there’s no help for you to burn in if your marriage isn’t working restructure it. What are you doing in your marriage is between the two of you and whoever else you invited in it’s fine if it’s not conventional this is how we make these things work.”

“if you felt new Love the entire time you were married to someone what a waste of a life obsession takes up all the time. When would you ever write your novel or paint your masterpiece? I just mean that life has work worth his life. We are nothing when we’re not working bored and depressed and asking existential questions that don’t need to be asked because who cares”

St Michele on marriage - he shrugs “it’s all fine everything changes anyhow everyone thinks that their relationship should really reach stasis and most of them wanted to reach stasis right after they start dating so they can have the new love feeling for the rest of their life. How boring”

So far painfully relatable & timely for my life.

“Don’t waste energy on should”

This book is fantastic because I feel as angry and irritated at Charlie as Birdie does- so much so I stopped reading it for a week because I was so affected by it! Now that’s a book.