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So she got a book deal to write about polyamory after only six years of being polyamorous...

Despite being raised in a conservative Christian household, she provides an inaccurate interpretation of the sins of Sodom and Gomorrah.

She says that if you move in together with a partner that you have to make sure to do things separately because otherwise you'll have no sex life anymore because you are bored with each other. Again, it sounds like a her problem.

She says that we have to meet our metamors, mandating connection. And the reason? It'll address our jealousy of each other so we don't view each other as rivals? I think this is a her problem.

/sarcasm I love hearing about the progress of "homosexual acceptance" from heterosexual biromantic woman

Right.. the only way to be "fully honest" and "living with integrity" is to be "out" in all areas of life. She says it's inherently dehumanizing to be in a relationship that isn't 100% out.

Wow, her definition and examples of "passing" are gross.

She literally and unironically wrote herself a poly constitution

Ah yes, only "opposite sex" partners are a pregnancy concern....

And she doesn't bother to note the massive consent differences between swingers and kink spaces. And lol, she references using "rubber gloves" for safer sex, making it obvious she's never used gloves - they're always nitrile

So binary in their definition of bisexual. And still references man on man activity as homosexual, but not woman on woman.

"A man who spends most of his time dressed as a woman" WTF transmisogyny is this?

Ah, she also loves Franklin Veaux. Of course.

Oh lovely - racist and ableist language from our white cis woman author 🙄

Wow, what near-immediate transmisogyny. This writer said this book is for "all kinds of girls" even "people who feel like a girl but don't have girl parts."

Ah, classic disordered eating/toxic diet framing - she views different food as "good" and "bad", like sugar and caffeine is bad. She mainly mentioned people with "compulsive overeating" rather than anorexia or orthorexia.

Um... she uses self-help books like a God Ouiji board?

If she says that suicide is a "permanent solution to a temporary problem" one more time....

It seems to me this wealthy cis het white woman had mostly good experiences with the psychiatric system because it was built for her. She doesn't report any psychiatric abuse and seems to like the paternalistic, controlling aspects of the system. She's blissfully unaware that the system does not treat everyone like that, just people like her.

She is very moralizing. And seems unable to comprehend that many people have very real material reasons for wanting to be dead, which is shown in the data, which she hasn't read. She also assumes everyone has a well-off family with great health insurance eager to support them with a large social circle. This is just a book for her.

She repeatedly says that "suicidal thoughts were my drug of choice." This woman doesn't understand suicidality or drug use.

She also seems obliviously unaware or doesn't care that these numbers all call the cops, which is very dangerous for many people

Ah, we've gotten to "god/religion is one of the best supports for change"

I find the tone condescending, and our narrator annoying. My current conclusion is that I experience suicidal thoughts VERY differently and for very different reasons than our author.

Wow, our MC is so very annoying and naive to the point of absurdity 🙄 This entire book reads like it was written by a self-righteous 16-year-old as revenge porn 😒

She frames coming out as a binary variable, either you're in or you're out as non monogamous. And not coming out is viewed as hiding who you really are.

How typical - a New Yorker runs away to California and then makes broad sweeping statements about " East coast" versus "west coast" paradigms, having never been outside of NYC 🙄 NYC is not the center of the universe

The lack of awareness and consideration of sexism, patriarchy, and misogyny in this codependency section is glaring.

I also found the descriptions of restorative justice to completely miss accountability and ownership of harm as one of the steps. Nothing is said about what a constructive and honest apology looks like, like the 3-part apology model. This felt like some cis het white man nonsense