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People tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need.

The colossal might of wickedness, he thought: how we love to locate it massively elsewhere. But so much of it comes down to what each one of us does between breakfast and bedtime.

Everything said something, and it wasn’t her job to consider the merit or even the meaning of the message: just to witness the fact of the message.

Why, until this moment, did I not realize that the issue is my own confidence? That the root of most of my problems is that I need to be secure enough and who I am to tell anyone who doesn’t like it to go fuck themselves? Why have I spent so long settling for less when I know damn well the world expects more?

And I started crying when I realized those men and women were willing to fight for a dream. I had never even allowed myself to envision. A world where we could be ourselves, without fear and without shame. They were braver and more hopeful than I was.

It’s hard business, reconciling what the truth used to be with what the truth is now.

I have to ask and be willing to be told no. I have to know my worth.

People think that intimacy is about sex. But intimacy is about truth. When you realize that you can tell someone your truth, when you can show yourself to them, when you stand in front of them bear and their response is “you’re safe with me“ – – that’s intimacy

Or is it just that the world unwraps itself to you, again and again, as soon as you are ready to see it anew?

“I still miss him,“ he said quietly. “Of course you do. I lost my dad four years ago, and I think of him all the time. This is big. The spirit takes a long time to heal, and the emptiness never fully goes away.”

When we teach kids to be both actor and Director – – to embrace the experience and also to survey and observe what’s happening within themselves – – we give them important tools that help them take charge of how they respond to situations they’re faced with.

We want to help kids develop. A dual motive, processing the events that occur in their lives. The first is all about teaching children to be aware of and simply since their subjective experiences. But also we want our kids to be able to observe what’s going on with them, and the experience is impacting them.

Explained most simply, mindset is the ability to see our own mind, as well as the mind of another. It allows us to develop meaningful relationships while also maintaining a healthy and independent sense of self.

So 1-2-3 discipline focuses on one definition (teaching) and two principals (wait y til your child is ready, and be consistent but not rigid).

At times you might try a “do – over.“ Instead of immediately offering a punishment for speaking disrespectfully, you can say something like, “I bet if you try again, you could come up with a more respectful way to say that.” You’re still consistently maintaining your expectations, but you’re doing so in a way that’s often much more beneficial than a rigidly imposed, unrelated consequence.