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Eye contacted a nonverbal cues are a very important part of your emotional presence. You may believe you are present with your child, but if your mind and attention or not on your child, you’re not in fact, emotionally present. If you are doing the dishes and talking to your child or cleaning while talking to your child, you are not being present, you’re distracted

It is essential that to be fully engaged in the present, we have made peace with the past. Busyness and activity can suppress the memories and feelings of traumatic events or painful relationships; when we are quiet or unoccupied, we often are flooded with these painful memories and feelings.

Three pillars of life: the doing, the having, and the being. Being is the most important pillar for a healthy self, healthy relationships, and a purple full life, but most people work, their whole lives doing so that they can have more, and spend a little time being. If we cannot be quiet and at peace with ourselves, then it is much harder to be with our babies parentheses or any deep in meaningful relationship.)

A baby who is learning independence on his mother’s schedule, not his own, may be learning that he cannot depend on the most important person in his life at a vulnerable time and may become disconnected emotionally.

Dependency is an essential bridge to healthy separation and critical for intimate love.

From birth to around 3 months, an infant has no boundaries; she does not distinguish between where she ends and her mother begins. Sometimes called the 4th trimester.

The development of right brain attributes like the ability to read social cues, relate to others, develop lasting, emotional connections, lays the foundation for later cognitive development.

Children need as much loving, nurturing, cuddling, comforting, and care as possible in their first three years. Touch reduces cortisol, the stress, hormone, in both infants and mothers.

Physical closeness is a very important part of nurturing, and physical intimacy is the key ingredient to a good feed for a baby. The baby is getting far more than nutrition when you feed him.

The first three years of a baby‘s life are a critical window in which to develop your babies right brain and nurture their emotional health and social development through attachment, play, and nonverbal communication.

For the first few weeks, it may seem like a baby does nothing but eat poop and sleep. But the truth is very different; an infant is creating 40,000 synapses per second. The relationship between mother and and Finn is built on nuance and settle interaction; it requires patience and careful attention to a baby‘s cues. This kind of patience and calm waiting are not qualities of our modern society, values or teachers.

Attachment occurs after bonding takes place; the two processes are inseparable. Attachment begins in the first few months of life, but as it is the continuous presence of the mother in the first 18 months that is the first step in building a deep and lasting sense of emotional security in a child. Bonding is putting the pieces together an attachment is gluing them in place.

A present mother is not just physically present colon presence requires being physically and emotionally available to your child.

Secure attachment requires continuous maintenance in the first year. Mothers who are suffering from postpartum depression, or may have suffered trauma themselves as babies or children May struggle longer than three months with the process of bonding.

All mothers are working mothers

Time and energy or not unlimited resources. Taking care of yourself requires that you reconsider and reset your priorities. You can’t be a good mother, if you are exhausted and depleted emotionally, mentally, and physically.

Everything is about intensity and degree.

Ethics can make no sense of this. The way healthcare professionals behave in response to the reality of suffering may raise plenty of questions for ethics. But ethics itself will not help them see their way through this. They can walk away. But the spiritual will be there again in the next morning. In the corridor. Weeping.

In the hospital, the best it generally gets is relief. If healthcare professionals were honest, they would admit that they are just like most of the rest of secular society. They avoid eye contact. The demur at the thought of explicitly acknowledging suffering or their failure to make it all go away.

I do not believe God made us as creatures divided thus asunder. I do not believe we are under any compulsion to check our brains in at a jar by the door before entering the sanctuary; nor do I believe we should debate our hearts before we enter the theology library.

the problem with doubting your self efficacy is that it begins a self fulfilling prophecy. You believe you cannot affect to change or reach goals so you put in a minimal effort, and you fail.

“ if you have a strong solution, then it will be flexible enough to ensure any changes that may come”

“instead of focusing on the conflict, concentrate on the task that needs to be done. Everyone is different, but in the end, what matters is that the team delivers and meeting high-quality work.”

Entrepreneurs should have 2 traits: 1) a sense of urgency: and 2) resilience

If algorithms are shown a skewed sample of the world, they will reach a skewed conclusion.

Psychologist are increasingly acknowledging the problem of experiments that study only “weird subjects“ that is, Western, Educated, and from Industrialized Rich Democracies.

Missing responses are examples of “dark data“ we know the people are out there and we know they have opinions, but we can only guess what those opinions are. David Hand.

A lobby group seeking to deny the statistical evidence will always be able to point to some aspect of the current science that is not settled, note that the matter is terribly complicated, and call for more research.

Sometimes an advanced degree in statistics would’ve been useful, but you never need it to ask the right questions.

Sometimes the problem is not that we are too eager to believe something, but that we find reasons not to believe anything.

Doubt is easy to sell because it is part of the process of scientific exploration and debate.

Good statistics are like a telescope for an astronomer, a microscope for a bacteriologist, or an x-ray for a radiologist. If we are willing to let them, Good statistics help us see things about the world around us and about ourselves, both large and small that we would not be able to see in any other way.

Look at your life, Closely. Notice your mind states. Notice your heart states.

The only person you need to prove yourself to is you.

Put more into making a change, not an excuse

A slow start is better than no start

If you wait to act until everything is "perfect," you will be a lifelong spectator

The day is not lost if it doesn't go according to plan. The day is lost if you give up on the day.

Oftentimes when good things happen, we speculate about when the other shoe will drop. Being prepared is more than okay, but it's also okay to allow joy without condition into your life.

Be less set in your ways. Routine allows for many comforts and conveniences, but it can prevent you from learning valuable things about yourself.

Searching for and having friends who blindly agree with your opinions no matter what won't help you grow. Surround yourself with honest people who challenge your choices, and who can openly speak about their values and beliefs There is little to learn in always being right