Liliana Dalton’s Reviews > Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life > Status Update

rereading this because i got a physical copy to mark up and also cause i influenced avery to get a copy as well

“mens pleasure is the default pleasure”

holy fucking shit.

“this is a restaurant, his penis told him, even though there was a brawl”
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it means that sexual things with sexually arouse you, even if it isnt intentional.

“i cant stop running, or fighting, or playing dead, or else the lion will eat me”
“what would happen if you were to stop running from yourself”

“your body reacts to negative evaluations like its under attack” (ref. self-criticism)

“I wanna address two things you have been taught that are definitely wrong…. first, that self criticism is good for you and second, that fat is bad for you. these things are both false.“

“kids who were securely attached to their caregivers will, as adults, most likely attach securely to their romantic partners and kids were insecurely attatched to their caregivers will, as adults, most likely attach to their romantic partners insecurely”

YOOO IGGY POP REFERENCE?!?!!

“in a culture where women have to spend so much time with the breaks on, saying no. its no wonder we have fantasies about abandoning all control, relaxing into absolute trust, turning off the breaks.”