Rachel’s Reviews > Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men > Status Update

Even if abused men didn't want to come forward, they would have been discovered by now. Neighbors don't turn a deaf ear to abuse the way they might have ten or twenty years ago...If there were millions of cowed, trembling men out there, the police would be finding them. Abusive men commonly like to play the role of the victim, and most men who claim to be battered men are actually the perpetrators of violence.

It is important to note that research has shown that men who have abusive mothers do not tend to develop especially negative attitudes towards females, but men who have abusive fathers do; the disrespect that abusive men show their female partners and their daughters is often absorbed by their sons.

Abuse of women by men is so rampant that, unless people can somehow make it women's own fault, they are forced to take on a number of uncomfortable questions about men and about much of male thinking.