Eileen’s Reviews > You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For: A New Approach to Intimate Relationships with the Internal Family Systems Model > Status Update
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About three chapters of this feels like it might be enough for me. I think I have the main ideas. I'm resistant to the jargon - especially the term 'tor-mentor' although exile, neo-exiles, and basement children aren't exactly subtle either. My 'protector' says the anonymized wife in chapter 4's example should run before her husband murders her not wait for him to comfort his inner 'baby' and let him come home.
— Aug 01, 2025 02:46PM
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I'm trying to keep an open mind but am already turned off by some aspects of the earliest portions of this book. The tendency to refer to the author's solutions as 'the secret to...' is off-putting as so far he hasn't said anything especially revolutionary. There's also already a degree of stereotyping about what men/women experience and how they behave. Men as 'stonewalling' women as negotiating change...
— Jul 18, 2025 05:03PM
