Garrett Frey’s Reviews > Breaking the Marriage Idol: Reconstructing Our Cultural and Spiritual Norms > Status Update

“What if, rather than pursuing marriage as a means for satisfying our own self-interested desires or as a therapy for various dysfunctions, Christian’s pursued marriage in order to be conduits of God’s gratuitous generosity? … the underlying reason why a Christian would pursue marriage remains the same: to give rather than to get, and thus translate God’s generosity into tangible blessing.”

[In reference to the Genesis ‘marriage’ account- “it is not good for man to be alone”]
“It most certainly is not good for humans to be alone— we can be sure of that much. But the answer to being alone is not marriage. It’s community. Better yet, it’s communion, primarily with God and also with each other. This is how the biblical narrative understands what it means to be fully human.”

“And so that I’m not misunderstood, let me make this point painfully clear. To understand single life in terms of waiting for a soulmate is to treat one’s imagined future spouse as both a fetish and an idol. It is sub-Christian.” 🙊

I will buy this book right now for anybody that wants to read it with me