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Being Human: Compassion and Gratitude
“Compassion is not the same as empathy or altruism, though the concepts are related. While empathy refers more generally to the ability to take the perspective of and feel the emotions of another person, compassion is when those feelings and thoughts include the desire to help” Greater Good Science Centre.

Trusting the spark: Motivation.
Intrinsic motivation is a precious resource that can be nurtured, perhaps even increased, but not usually through direct or heavy-handed ways. Instead, the research suggests focussing on supporting the ingredients of internal motivation: competence, autonomy, and connection with others.

Building Independence: A reminder to self that “when we remain too involved, doing things for our children that they are capable of doing for themselves, we send a subtle but clear vote of ‘no confidence’ that can affect children’s self-esteem, their coping skills, and our parent-child relationship.

Psychological Adaptability quote that stuck with me: A less commonly known pillar of good mental health is a flexible mind. One of the best gifts we can give our kids is the ability to see themselves and others flexibly, and to keep that ability even under duress.

Finishing the chapter “Accepting Anxiety” and taking away quite a few tips and tricks for myself and not only my kiddos which is amazing. In particular, this quote stands out “you don’t want your kid to never feel anxious; you want anxiety to lose its potency”.

Quote that stuck with me: emotions are chemical experiences in our bodies, and they come and go beyond our conscious control