Matthew Elliot’s Reviews > TURN THE NARCISSIST INTO YOUR PUPPET: Master Dark Psychology, Emotional Manipulation, and Mind Control to Escape Toxic Power Games, Set Strong Boundaries, and Take Back Control from the Narcissist > Status Update

I'm only taking bits and pieces from this because my beautiful wife ACTS like a narcissist when she's feeling threatened to protect herself and I'm learning gentle ways to approach her and understand her because I love her and I don't want her to ever feel threatened with me.

"An effective approach encompasses a blend of empathy tempered with an unwavering commitment to self-awareness. Guard your responses, recalibrate your engagement, and devise methods to maintain balance and perspective. In doing so, you rewrite the narrative—detangling yourself from the chains of impression management, and reaffirming your boundaries and sense of self."

”In relationships, it manifests as an expectation of continuous adulation— a cycle that can quickly morph into tantrums or dismissals when expectations aren’t met."

"But instead of facing this vulnerability, they construct a narrative fortified by aggressiveness and a fierce need to control, desperately warding off the potential abyss of abandonment."

"As sincere relationships hinge on vulnerability and mutual accountability, these protective veils obscure any chance of genuine connection , pivoting partnerships toward toxicity and estrangement."

"It’s a reminder not to be lured into debating or dismantling their defenses, for reason holds no sway where self-delusion reigns supreme. Instead, you maintain clarity by refusing to engage at the level of their distorted reality, remaining grounded in your truth."

"Consider for a moment the narcissist confronted with indisputable evidence of their wrongdoing. However blatant the evidence might be, the narcissist effectively employs denial to decide the reality simply isn’t there. It is a potent mechanism that shields them from accountability, enabling them to redefine the narrative according to their needs. Denial offers them a convenient exit strategy, preventing any threat."

"Picture a scenario where the narcissist, faced with their aggressive tendencies, instead accuses their partner of being unnecessarily hostile."

"you become a director of your narrative, adept at discerning between truth and portrayal. By insisting on transparency and genuine human connection, you step beyond the curtains of illusion and invite the narcissist—or perhaps, release them—into an unvarnished realm where true selves are welcomed."