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Ch 19 & 20 on the Three Methods of Working with Chaos and The Trick of Choicelessness.

"Chaos is part of our home ground. Instead of looking for something higher or purer, work with it, just as it is."

Ch 15 & 16

"In order to feel compassion for other people, we have to feel compassion for ourselves."

Ch 13 & 14, beautiful reflections on widening the circle of compassion and bodhichitta - the love that will not die.

"When inspiration has become hidden, when we feel ready to give up, this is the time when healing can be found in the tenderness of pain itself."

Ch 11 & 12. Love this quote from Ch 12,

"Honesty without kindness, humor, and goodheartedness can be just mean. From the very beginning to the very end, pointing to our own hearts to discover what is true isn't just a matter of honesty but also of compassion and respect for what we see."

Ch 10 - Curious about Existence: Impermanence, Suffering, and Egolessness

Finished Ch 8 and 9 on the 8 worldly desires and 6 kinds of loneliness.

Great chapter on death and hopelessness. I love the closing sentence:

"But if we totally experience hopelessness, giving up all hope of alternatives to the present moment, we can have a joyful relationship with our lives, an honest, direct relationship, one that no longer ignores the reality of impermanence and death."

Ch 6 (Not Causing Harm)

Great reminders:

"It's a transformative experience to simply pause instead of immediately filling up the space."

"If we immediately entertain ourselves by talking, by acting, by thinking, if there's never any pause, we will never be able to relax."

From Ch 2:

"Things falling apart is a kind of testing and also a kind of healing. We think that the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don't really get solved. They come together and they fall apart."