Danielle’s Reviews > Who Deserves Your Love: How to Create Boundaries to Start, Strengthen, or End Any Relationship > Status Update

"There is nothing wrong with you if you don't have a romantic partner and there is nothing wrong with you if you don't even want a romantic partner"

"In a good relationship, the good times, are really good. And the bad times are safe."

"Safe enough to share your weaknesses without fear that they will be used against you in an intentionally cruel way"

"How good is good enough to stay in the relationship and how bad is bad enough to leave"

"To change the way I functioned in relationships moving forward, I had to do two things. (1) realize that the impact that the trauma had on me was not my fault, rather addressing my behavior in relationships was my responsibility (2) make a decision - can i learn to love them for who they are and heal within the relationship as it is or is my healing dependent on putting space between us"

"When you experience a pervasive lack of psychological safety in childhood you learn to hide, suppress, or despise the most vulnerable pieces of yourself because they will be weaponized against you. You hide them to protect yourself, but in doing so, you ensure that you never get the opportunity to prove the story wrong"

"I grew up mistreated just enough to want to be rescued, but not mistreated enough to deserve it. I never felt like my pain was enough"

"High self esteem and self acceptance are not prerequisites for finding deep connection. You deserve to find a good relationship, even if you don't like yourself"