Minh Huy’s Reviews > Barking Up the Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Success Is (Mostly) Wrong > Status Update

*meaning = stories.
-Best prediction for romantic success: tale couples told together (healthy or not).
-Best prediction child emotions well-bein: a kid knew it's family history.

In most awful place on earth, the people who kept going despite the horrors were the ones who had meaning in their lives

Confabulation: psychological situation where ppl will find whatever reasons even the most ridiculous ones to hold on the belief they cling on.

Cognitive bias: little hardwired shortcuts in our brains that help speed up decision makin

1/depression is pessimism grit large. When you keep down the path of feeling helpless again and again.
Fun fact: they re actually right some of the time: depressive realism
->optimists lie to themselves, but if we all stop believing anything can change, nothin ever will

2/growth mindset rocks! And it's scienced proof

3/optimism isn't genetic: it's the stories we tell ourselves

Sum up part 2:
5/think and make others think long term:
"[Ppl] always trying to discern 2 things: whether a potential partner can be trusted and whether he is likely to be encounter again."

6/forgive
Fact: u can't even always trust urself. Life is complex, we don't have perfect in4 bout others and their motives

Sum up chap 2:
1/gần đèn thì sáng gần mực...
-kissin boss's ass isnt immoral if the boss is sb u genuinely respect - ask to speak to him or do some research about him.

2/always coop/go 1st: cho đi trước
Best negotiation: they need to like u
Favors can be small

3/cơ mà đừng hiền quá(nhu nhược)

4/work hard: but make sure u get noticed
Tip:every Fri send ur boss an email summaries ur accomplishment for the week(p.59)

Tic for tat's lesson:
1/dont be envious: worry how well u re doin. Life is not zero sum
2/ dont betray ppl 1st
3/đừng khôn lỏi: cho mn thấy mình ra sao simple để họ join: u coop with me I'll do the same, vice versa

1/ givers > matchers > takers.
Initiate good first, always a big win.
The only worth learning from jerks: they re assertive bout what they want, and not afraid to show it and what they've achieved.

2/ pirates success was due to their superb democracy.

3/ givers fall on both side of the spectrum: top and bottom. The reason why those at the bot is because they're way too benevolent, they only give.
->be a Tic for tat

1. Your demons are also your angels/intensifiers.