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We are not our anger, fear, resentment, or past decisions. We are eternal energy forged from love, and what we become here in this human life is the culmination of our actions, thoughts, and behaviors. I believe that at our cores, we are all the purest essence of love, even when our actions align with fear. Fear can take control of our behavior when it gains momentum because fear is sneaky.

How quickly the healing from Spirit can happen when someone is open to receiving it is always a miracle to me

Certainty of the outcome isn’t always part of the equation. But maybe that’s the beauty of it. The real gift is when the possibility of growth, connection, and expansion becomes more exciting than the fear that’s been keeping you frozen in place. Fear will never fully disappear. It’s part of being human. And there’s never a promise of success. But we can

When someone passes—or even when a relationship ends—we can say goodbye to the physical vessel. We can release the tangible, the form we once knew. But can we ever truly say goodbye to their energy? If we never really say goodbye to the energy of our loved ones, then every sign from our loved ones, every little memory that resurfaces, is not just a remembrance but a gentle hello.

That is so beautiful <3.

The journey to authenticity is about understanding who we are on a deeper level. It’s about peeling back the layers of fear, shame, and conditioning that tell us we can’t be ourselves.

When we suppress who we truly are, a tension arises within us—something that festers, builds, and grows into resentment. And resentment, over time, becomes anger. And if that anger has nowhere to go? It sinks into sadness. It takes root. It turns into depression, into anxiety, into a heaviness we carry without realizing how much of it was never ours to hold in the first place.

At first, I second-guessed everything. Was that my imagination or a real message? Was I making this up? Was I doing it right? But as I gained experience—through practice, through readings, through moments of undeniable proof—I learned something even more valuable than technique: I learned to trust myself.

Connecting with Spirit isn’t about control—it’s about surrender. It’s about getting quiet, opening up, and trusting in something beyond what the logical mind can grasp.

And with that knowing came a certainty so deep, so absolute, that it anchored itself in my soul: I never want to lose this feeling. That feeling of connection. Of purpose. Of being part of something so much greater than myself. It was unlike anything I had ever known before. Not just because of what I had experienced, but because, for the first time in my life, I felt like me. Not a version of

I suppose that’s the whole point: We often have no idea where we are headed, but when we look back, we can see the path to where we ended up with perfect clarity.