Desa Rae’s Reviews > Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans > Status Update

Stop speaking for the child.

It’s healthy for your child to be loved by other adults (alloparents). Let big kids be alloparents for the littles.

Minimal interference

Let the child decide what the child wants to do. Let them set the agenda

Autonomy vs independence

Autonomy

Monster stories to illustrate important characteristics or show reasoning for completing a task (e.g. respect, keeping the fridge door closed)

If a child misbehaves they need more responsibilities, more calm and more touch.

Replace anger with awe

Intuit recommends ignoring tantrums yet also says timeouts are no good. Leaving the child alone to process their own emotions

Encourage children to think: Tell children the consequence of their actions

Offer less choices

Minimize child-centered activities
Throw out child-centered objects
Use toys to teach sharing
Acknowledgment > praise

TEAM: Togetherness

Raising helpful kids