Rachel Lehmann’s Reviews > Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life > Status Update

“You must take in the good. Do not continue to hide your talent in the ground and expect to get better. Learn to respond to and receive love, even if you’re clumsy at first.”

“Don’t fear the rage you discover when you first begin your boundary development. It is the protest of earlier parts of your soul. Those parts need to be unveiled, understood, and loved by God and people. And then you need to take responsibility for healing them and developing better boundaries.”

“It’s often years of nos that were never voiced, never respected, and never listened to. The protests against all the evil and violation of our souls sit inside us, waiting to tell their truths.”

“An internal no nullifies an external yes. God is more concerned with with our hearts than he is with our outward compliance.”

“I said to tell him without considering his feelings would be cruel. That is very different from not doing what you need to do…But it would not harm him, and that’s the big difference. If anything, the hurt would help him. …Hurt and harm are different. “

“You must first determine who you aren’t before you discover the true, authentic aspects of your God-given identity.”

“Our deepest need is to belong, to be in a relationship, to have a spiritual and emotional home. The very nature of God is to be in relationship “God is love”. Love means relationship-the caring, committed connection of one individual to another. Like God, our most central need is to be connected.

Boundary struggles in their roots in childhood