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Lily Sider
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Note later, page 105:
“It is not as simple as teaching ourselves to not see crying as weak, or as feminine. I don’t want to teach that crying is a show of strength, either... I want us to see crying as inextricably linked to living, like exhaling is to the act of breathing.
I think one of the most valuable things this culture steals from our men is their tears.”
— Nov 29, 2025 03:40AM
“It is not as simple as teaching ourselves to not see crying as weak, or as feminine. I don’t want to teach that crying is a show of strength, either... I want us to see crying as inextricably linked to living, like exhaling is to the act of breathing.
I think one of the most valuable things this culture steals from our men is their tears.”
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Lily Sider
is on page 117 of 256
“I also really appreciated the image of Judith Butler on a slip ‘n slide. Maybe I will try to keep that story in my head the next time I try to read all of Gender Trouble without getting lost and giving up.”
HAHA oh my god. You’re alright, Ivan Coyote.
— Nov 29, 2025 04:00AM
HAHA oh my god. You’re alright, Ivan Coyote.
Lily Sider
is on page 83 of 256
Note to self - return to page 79 and highlight this Judith Butler quote (seems that they’ve followed me out of ‘Who’s Afraid of Gender?’ and into my new book :0):
“It won’t do to say that threats against some people are tolerable but against others are intolerable.”
— Nov 24, 2025 08:25PM
“It won’t do to say that threats against some people are tolerable but against others are intolerable.”

